Hey, so we met a year ago at uni, on a same project. He always came my way to talk to me whenever he saw me, smiled, made short talk, it felt like there was something going on like if we always had to say something and it felt awkward... He complimented my knowledge a lot, said i was the most resourceful person at uni, we had some interesting convos too whenever we could... But i kind of escaped every time since healing from breakup and did not continue talking to avoid getting too close cause it was obviously possible (you feel chemistry and consciously avoid it , but always wondered if it was just me).. he that time was single, kind of hooking around, he treated me with respect, kinda seemed nervous, when he was playful and goofy with all the other girls... He always expressed that wanted to spend more time with me. But we never actually texted. He randomly also asked me about relationships, and he said he is less experienced (I'm 2-3 years older than him, he randomly has also mentioned that he likes maturity). Then i finished uni, and he always saw my stories, wished me happy birthday also and we talked online about some traumas and past experiences, he reacted with 'hearts' to all my messages and told me he wants to do the same (digital nomading) as I do. It was not a big deal. Today I just randomly went to uni, he was there, came instantly to me "Finally glad I havemanaged to see you after so long" but he was kind of distant, then mentioned one girl from uni I know also, he did not say he was dating but I saw it was obvious, from their actions. He did not come to me as he did before, kind of avoided talking, but he was staring me and glancing on me all the time. I felt a bit sad that he did it, do you think it was intentional to avoid me or am I creating stories in my mind? The reason why I'm asking is that, all the 'chemistry' was now disturbed by not only me, but by him too. Do you think it's because he's really attracted and purposefully tries to stay away?
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Most likely, he is still attracted to you but committed to someone else and is trying to avoid temptation. He is trying to do the right thing and you should respect this about him. Maybe this relationship will not last and, after the breakup, he will sell you again. In the meanwhile, don’t burn any bridges.
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Hey, I think he’s definitely attracted to you and all are obvious signs. I think he’s unsure about himself or worried you’re gonna reject him. That happened to me too. When I was studying at school, He was nice to me even if he had a girlfriend. I remember he was even hugging with her in front of me. I felt strange. After some time I left the school cos my own conditions, he called me and expressed his feelings I rejected him. Then I heard that he broke up with his girlfriend.
I think you've created so many scenarios in your mind that you can't even keep them straight. These scenarios are based on what you want to be, not reality.
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It sounds like he found someone else. Time to move on.
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