Tell me he’s a player, without telling me he’s a player 🌚🌝?

[Rosexøxø]

when he says:

“I just want to be friends”

• followed with a:

“how we’ve been talking is good/fine.”

• and/or a:

“I think you’re a cool person.”

- But then something seems to linger near sexual talk with him..

**does this conclude he doesn’t want to “date” or be “serious,” but he’d like some sexual benefit out of it- as a friend? **

Maybe not even frequent, but kind of like: if it happens.. it happens.

🤔

I’m thinking this is EXACTLY what it means lol and while it was TEMPTING.. It was confusing because as a girl- and girls you know it- we don’t fuck friends, lmao 🤣

So I’m curious what some of the perspectives on this will be. (He’s super hard-core of a person. Can be political sometimes, so I didn’t want to disrespect him and seem like I HAD BROUGHT IT UP. Lol but he was being so subtle about it.

I was just like-

is this?

is this…

wait wha- 😧

lol

(All images sourced from Google)

Updates

11 mo

Surely I CAN JUST ASK HIM.

But I find the fun in trying to “read it.” Normally I would truly be like- bro speak up you sounded like a little girl just then 😑😂

But part of me is like- ahhhh so he wants to do the forbidden stuff… alright I’ll play

BUT

I don’t want all of this to be in my head and then have to try and recover from it LMAO 🤣

Updates

11 mo

I suppose I could’ve sent a screenshot of the late night message for contextual purposes, but didn’t really think of it ‘til after question submission…

So here it is for expl. https://ibb.co/rMvX82t

[hsshannah96]

I think this is player crud. I am talking to a guy but I’m putting as much effort into him as he is into me. so if he doesn’t ask me on a second date I’m not asking him on one. I already told him I want to balance hanging out at home with going places and he knows my intentions. That’s all you can do is tell him what you’re looking for and THEN ignore him until he caves

[Rosexøxø]

Amen! Haha

[WhitneySnow]

I think your reading of what he’s saying is totally on point. You nailed it lol.

[Rosexøxø]

Yessss sis! YES 1000% he had confirmed this after some teasing back and forth and now I see he has an issue with dating terms or so. Like how some are scared of marriage and just want to remain dating because they feel they shouldn’t be “blackmailed” by law. He’s been really emotional (it’s not bad at all but it’s eye-opening) and mentions “us” a lot and a bunch of other stuff where we COULD date, but he will never say that he wants it as “friends.” Lol

People can be funny at times for sure 😂 myself included Lmaoo!

But love ur post. Some were making it seem like I was crazy, but I was spot on!

So high five! 😆😄😁

[BoopBoopBeep]

You said "as a girl, we don't fuck friends."

I know a great many women who would disagree with you there.

[Rosexøxø]

Yeah they also learned to embrace their sexuality and wandered past points of no return lol. Good exceptions and ehh somewhat a goal to normalize.

Can’t fuck total strangers lolz

[mommymommymommy]

Cause there's no such thing as "just friends"

Why people think there is, i dk

[Rosexøxø]

Amen 🙏 you get it and you need to tell your female friends or others and be a good neighbor lol

Enlighten themmmm

[Mansearching]

I'm not a player. So I don't know how to be one either. So I don't know if he is or not.

[Rosexøxø]

Well we don’t have to be birds to know what they’re like lolz

You don’t have to be a girl to know what they’re like right?

But thanks for the point of reference 💯

[spartan55]

I have no idea what the last part of your post is about. I didn't see anything sexual.

[Rosexøxø]

Okay I sensed sexual tension from him like he said he would help me sleep he mentioned us calling at night.

He’s been careful/methodical, but I think he wanted something or was just down a bit (but I thought guys mostly got turned up in early mornings lol) 🤣 I can’t explain it but I just sense it.

[Rosexøxø]

So you think he’s being “normal,” the?

[Rosexøxø]

Then*

[spartan55]

I don't know, I certainly don't see what you are talking about. I think you want to believe he is a player (overused term) so it's making you reach for things and try to connect dots to make it true. And I really don't think you can sense much of anything by text since you are only receiving about 10% of the overall message.

[Rosexøxø]

Okay so your answer is about 10% credible enough to use. Thanks (basically what you said, as you and I read the same feed of context, except I’ve been the one actually engaging with him).

Whatever he is- I’m not judging him. 🤷‍♀️ 🤣

[Rosexøxø]

by the way, the whole English language is overused.. for centuries now. It’s called making use of something but, whatever floats your boat 🛶

Lolz

[spartan55]

Sure, every guy is a player right? Women have overused this term to the point of being meaningless. Ask 10 you'll get 10 different answers, so really it's a lazy throwaway term.
10% credible... okay 👌.
If honestly believe your bias isn't influencing you here then there's not much anyone can do. I've learned that women can think something is true based on things entirely made up in their heads. Facts are an afterthought.
Enjoy though...

[spartan55]

The English language is overused? Wth are you talking about?

[Rosexøxø]

Lol your intelligence has been noted my friend… <— the last part is a lie but… 😂

And you were wrong.

You also seem up tight? So go take a few minutes to pull the stick out of your ass. That’s not how you deal with constipation.

Prunes… are the way to go.

[spartan55]

Wrong about what? Again, you aren't making any sense after that. Something about prunes or some shit... enjoy your assumptions.

[leahzrc]

being good at flirting

[Rosexøxø]

Hey I’ll take this submission 😂👌 I think I chose the wrong title but I’ll make one like it now.

[EaterPeter]

What if it happens

[Rosexøxø]

Well I don’t mind but HE SAID just friends lmao

I was expecting flirty stuff and other before but he said he was just looking for a friend 😂

I think maybe we both mind interpreted each other as genders.

Guys see friends as fuckable right? But girls don’t

And then he assumed I wanted more but was fine with just stupid stuff? I don't know I just wanna make sure I’m not misreading him

[EaterPeter]

Guy always gets more benefeit out of any relationship with woman

[EaterPeter]

Thanks for like!

[Rosexøxø]

Ofc!