Ok, so I had a friends with benefits situation going with a guy a month ago... and then he kind of stopped asking me to come over, but we still texted and saw each other socially. He's a single parent, and explained that he's just been busy and too tired for anything intimate lately.
I had a few drinks the other night and sent him some drunk texts that I regret, about wanting time with him, and feeling like I was bothering him by trying to hang out, and that I felt like we messed up the friendship and was worried about that. He replied with, "I don't think you're being clear about wanting to hang out. I wasn't aware that you actually wanted time with me. Either way, we can certainly still be friends, at a minimum."
... what does the "at a minimum" mean here? A few of my friends are telling me that they think it means he wants nothing to do with me and is just being nice. Others are saying at a minimum means he wants to be friends and possibly more.
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Sounds like he's saying he wants to be friends, but nothing more. He probably isn't interested in being fwbs anymore. Could be because he's seeing someone else now, or - and people really do change - it could be that he just doesn't really want that lifestyle anymore. Who knows? But I definitely think he's not interested in a sexual relationship with you from this point on.
And unlike women, I do think he's okay with just being friends with you and probably means it. I don't know many guys who are fake about saying they'll still be friends with a female. The only way to find out is to see if he wants to do something some time as friends. If he doesn't, then you know he's not true to his word. Either way, if I were you I would not keep holding on to any hope that he still wants a sexual relationship, or even a serious one. Give him distance, and just move on.
It means you are overthinking and drunk texting yourself out of a situation that was going well. Stop acting like he owes you, he's your fuck buddy, not your boyfriend.
Don't listen to your friend's advice. They have no clue.