Opinions needed, Im wondering if my boyfriend is cheating/flirting behind my back?

[Boomchakalaca]

We have been dating for 5 years. He tells me all the time that he gets hit on all the time. When he is ordering food or even on the job. He kinda bloats about it to me when he says a particular red shirt attracts women. He sent a pic of himself smiling with the shirt on after he got hit on. Kinda weird but pop off. He tells me this girl at work be bluntly speaking her mind with him saying he touches her or he want to feel her. She is the extroverted type to say it loud and proud. She even cat called him. :/ she said she wants to ride his d*** and shit in front of people. He said that she put the thought of sex on his mind 🧐 Well i was feeling rlly depressed one day about my self and he reassured me. We spoke about that girl and whats happening at work. He told me he ate her lunch bc he was hungry and how he dosent like her 🤨 then he all of a sudden says “she has a nice body”. That irked me. And i lied that i felt better that day. Its 1am rn and we all hav those thoughts at night that linger. Is he flirting with her bc he has been clearly checking her out! Ngl me and him are both gonna see her tomorrow whether he likes it or not. I wanna know how they interact with each other if she sees me and him as friends.

[Guardian45]

I think you have a right to be concerned about both him and her. She sounds like she's trying to steal him from you. You might have to put an end to her. He sounds likes he's questioning or testing your commitment to him. Or worse, he could just be a dog. First, find out if he's a dog or not. Then solidify your relationship. Then fix that bitch.

[Boomchakalaca]

He tells me that girls like him bc they stare at him when he comes into work. He also wanted me to go to his work to stop them. Which we just walked around at the store to let people know. Its so silly. 🤨 I don't know why he dosent want help from someone sexually harassing him at work kinda weird!

[Guardian45]

He's a manipulator. It may be time to cut him loose!

[Guardian45]

Thanks for MHG!

[ImalwaysrightOK]

That's really disrespectful of your boyfriend to allow that to be happening. A good boyfriend wouldn't allow that and would tell other girls that he's spoken for and not act like some fuckboy. He probably has no intention of being faithful and would gladly screw another chick given the opportunity.

[Boomchakalaca]

Ik 😄 like why he letting a little girl harass him at work. Its not the first time. He tells me to tell the women to stop 🤨 like boy r u 7, do it urself. I never had to confront a chick before but 😂 its freaking weird asl

[ImalwaysrightOK]

He probably gets off on the drama of making 2 women jealous.

[Boomchakalaca]

Yup 👍🏼 i do believe he likes the female attention he gets which is fair, but he seems to be playful about it with women. Telling me how he hates her but he eats her food and asked for food from her.. what. 🤨

[ImalwaysrightOK]

Thanks for mh

[spartan55]

You are worried about something so irrelevant here. Do what you want, but driving an hour, and showing up at his work is a crazy girl move. To 'see how they interact' when she thinks you and him are friends? How are you pulling all of this off? You going to make a scene? What are you hoping to accomplish? So many things can go wrong, and you won't get the outcome you want.
But that whole plan is a waste of time and ignores the elephant in the room. You completely ignore the fact that your boyfriend openly disrespects you, and not just a little disrespect, a ton of it. Maybe you like getting treated like trash who knows.

by the way, he lies like a motherfucker. He is not getting hit on like he claims. When he orders food? Really? He is fake bragging trying to keep your self esteem low, make you believe you can't get any better. In reality, he's an insecure abuser who knows he's a shitbag.

[Boomchakalaca]

Ik someone was gonna throw the crazy girl label on me lol. Im just gonna set my boundaries straight. Im very shy and introverted i do not make scenes despite my insides screaming. Im taking my car 🤷🏻‍♀️ and he is coming along bc tomorrow is his day off. If i find out he cheated then im leaving him with her 💨 😂

[spartan55]

Why do you need to go there to set a boundary? How would you find out he was cheating? You think just showing up make them, confess.

[Boomchakalaca]

Why are u so against it? Put urself in my shoes. I've already explained enough 😮‍💨

[MementoMori777]

well i see ehy you call his underwear panties now, dis dude behave like a bitch, he foreal has a toxic egotistical behavior he has to put under control because he seems to be saying these things he knows bothers you, he seems to be be dping it on purpose which i hope its just to make you jealous but i do believe you are handling it well, you see whats up with their interaction.

[bowenw]

It sounds very suspicious. I suggest keeping a close eye on him.

[Boomchakalaca]

His job is an hour away. He comes home late from overtime. Yes, im gonna drive an hour with him to his job to meet this lovely girl 😂

[Anonymous]

Easy answer. Get rid of that POS. He's nothing but drama telling you all this shit. Tell him an old friend of yours reached out to you who you used to have a crush on lol no he's going to flip out. He gets off on this shit. He likes her. Toss his ass.

[Boomchakalaca]

Only way to find out is to show up and say, “hey girl, my boyfriend told me so much about u 😄”

[Alex8736]

possibly hinting for you to break it off because he has no balls to

[mommymommymommy]

If you think so

[jimmy2]

Sounds like it honey

[Boomchakalaca]

Tsk tsk 😪 he says that he told her he had a girlfriend but this chick is persistent and sexually harasses him at work with vulgar language. Should he talk to HR about this? He says he is afraid of losing his job.