I know this guy through some family friends, but not super well. He always talks to me when we're at parties or get togethers and we always have a good time just joking around. I added him on Snapchat, and he accepted it. I snapped him a funny pertaining to our last conversation and he opened it pretty quick but didn't answer. He's forgetful so I brushed it off. A few days later I sent a chat just asking how he's been. Again, opened right away but didn't answer. We've never had any problems or not gotten along, and it was just casual talking. We've only ever talked in person, tho. This was a month ago. We're still friends on the app. I'm just wondering why he'd open each message right away but not say anything? Can I try talking now that some time has passed, or do I just let it be? I'm just confused because we've always gotten along.
Why would a guy you know and have no problems with add you on social media and leave you on read?
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Guys don't care about stupid Snapchat, remember that.
So what do I make of it? I don't know if it's worth trying again, or if it means he doesn't want to talk. Like I said, we've always gotten a long so it just surprised me.
Did you not read what I just wrote?
Yes, I did, but I'm not understanding what that's supposed to mean.
It means talk to him in person, like normal people do.
We do, but we don't see each other super often. Which is why I added him on snap to begin with. So we could talk a little more and get to know each other better. Now I feel a bit weird like I'm not sure if I should keep talking to him.
Oh my... it's like talking to a wall.
Not really. I understand what you're saying, I'm just saying we already do talk in person and I added him on social media so we could talk even more. We don't see each other super often, so only talking in person is rather difficult. I'm confused because your answers are a little vague and haven't really answered my main question.
Stop gauging his level of interest on whether or not your social media says he left you on “read.” People get distracted. Read something. Start doing something else. Watch a show. Or get on YouTube whatever.
It’s funny, because 60 years ago women would complain about having to wait by the phone all in the hope that some guy calls. Imagine. Just sitting around, staring at the phone, waiting. Meanwhile he’s at work, or working on his car, or hanging out with the boys, or watching a ball game.
And today women are STILL waiting for men to contact them. He left me on “read.”
Try to just text or actually call instead of using social media. It’s a more intimate way my to communicate—and if you’re using Snapchat to communicate with him, that means he’s looking at OTHER peoples Snapchat’s. Not just yours. So he’s already have other things to distract him and competing for his attention—all because you’re using social media to talk.
Good luck.
Maybe try to communicate with a different medium, like phone calls. There are other ways to communicate and social media is the worst. Or you can keepvs forcing a square peg in a round hole. Don't be so stubborn there are other ways.
I'm not trying to be stubborn. I don't know his phone number. This was a first attempt at having another way to talk to each other besides just when we see each other. I feel like that's not being understood.
@Agagagagaga See the thing is, I don't have his phone number. Adding him on social media was in an effort to have a way to talk more besides just the occasional run-in. The last time we saw each other we really had fun and I realized I'd like to get to know him more.
@asker so get his number? You make it seem like that isn't an option.
That's why I added him on sc. It's not as forward as getting his number, but still an attempt and getting to know him better. I don't know him that well, I don't want to look like a weirdo. 🤦 Like, we're not strangers but more acquaintances at this point.
Maybe he’s shy and not a good texter. Some guys aren’t.
Because he has more important things to do than look at your social media profile page or picture.
They were direct messages that he took the time to open. That's what's weird.
Yeah when my break at work is over I forget to reply because I am busy with work and realize I left them on read when I am finished with work.
So is it disinterest, or could I make one more attempt?
Try one more attempt.
I'm not even sure what to say.
Just ask him if he's still interested in seeing you. He'll reply.
Lol we weren't seeing each other. I just want to talk more to get to know each other and see how it goes.
Well express desire. You clearly do like him he's probably a nice guy. So just let him know.