Why would a guy I believe is out of my league be chasing me big time?

[Anonymous]

I don’t wear makeup or dresses/ heels and I’m not perfectly manicured either. I am however athletic looking and I have no idea whether I’m attractive facially or not. I’ve had guys act nervously around me in past but have no idea why could be coincidence. When I’ve mentioned to some girls in the past I thought a guy liked me they kind of give each other a look with a smile as though they are kind of amused by it. I’ve heard we tend to be in a relationship with people that are similar in looks to us. This guy who is stereotypically good looking i believe has a huge crush on me and i can’t tell whether he wants a relationship or sex. I hope he’s not saying all the right things just to sleep with me. But he’s stereotypically good looking and they say we attract people the same attractiveness as us. I’m just starting to think perhaps he’s got something so called societally wrong with him that he’d date someone like me or perhaps he sees me as wife material as I know he also wants kids and he even dropped hints with me! Thoughts? Thanks

[SnowedIn]

You are asking entirely the wrong question.

You sound smart. You know the difference between take you to dinner for sex and take you to dinner to get to know you.

So, the only question you should be asking yourself is, "Would I enjoy a date with him?" And then either do or don't. And if he just wants sex, that's another choice for you to make but not an obligation.

But save the "why?" philosophy stuff for a philosophy class.

[Asker]

It’s finding out his intentions that’s the hard part

[SnowedIn]

That's my point. You're fixating on that.

First, the guy is, you say, chasing you. That's a good thing.

So go out with him. If his intentions are bad, you'll pick up on it and can end it with him. If his intentions are good, then yay!

But if you try to read the book now it'll never get written.

[Asker]

Great quote thanks so much

[Anonymous]

You probably are a lot more attractive than you realize, or at least to him.