Why are guys so confusing?

[Anonymous]

So I went out drinking with my guy friend (were both single by the way), but when a guy came up to me asking what's my name if I'm single and if he could have my number my friend came over putting his arm on my waist, saying that he's my boyfriend and telling the guy to go away but when I asked him why he did that he said cause I'm his friend and he doesn't want something bad happening, then two days later we went to a house party I was invited to I asked if I could bring him with me cause he wanted to come they said yes and he said he was gonna hang with me so nothing bad happens, and then when we got there we had a drink together then a girl came up to us and asked if we were dating, and he said no so the girl brought her brother over to me cause he was single but my friend got really mad and went outside, so I went out to see if he was ok cause I was really confused why he suddenly got mad

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8 mo

He does this when he doesn't drink too

[RagnarRedbeard]

Guys aren’t confusing, he is. It’s either that he likes you but is afraid to actually be your boyfriend because he has some kind of hang-up, or he’s being over-protective because he thinks that any guy who comes to talk to you is likely to be a creep, most likely because of the things other girls say about guys who approach them.

[ProbablyClueless]

He's not attracted to you, he just didn't have a good feeling about the guy that came up to you the first night.

He's not trying to mark you as his territory.

[Archferret]

Your friend may like you or want to protect you. If you're not interested in him, you should let him know so that he doesn't continue to act this way and create misunderstandings in future

[BarryLiverstone]

Right but that’s why I asked if she likes him. We gotta assume she told him he’s only a friend right?

[Asker]

I have told him I see him as a friend

[Archferret]

You see him as a friend (guy friend), he sees you as his girlfriend

[Archferret]

*might

[spartan55]

I guess you need it spelled out for you. Ready? YOUR FRIEND LIKES YOU.

[Asker]

I've asked him if he likes me and he always says no im just a friend to him

[spartan55]

Oh my...🙄 He is lying. He doesn't want to admit it... hello?

[Asker]

He sounds serious when he says it tho

[spartan55]

Believe what you want.

[BarryLiverstone]

Both of these times happened around alcohol. How is he normally when he’s buzzed?

[Asker]

He's normally fine or tired

[BarryLiverstone]

Then maybe he was tired. I mean telling the guy off was just protecting you. Do you like him or is he just a friend?

[Asker]

I didn't tell him off I was just confused cause he's done this before when he doesn't drink too and I see him as a friend and he knows this

[BarryLiverstone]

No, I meant your friend pretending to be your boyfriend was him protecting you

[Asker]

He does it when girls or elder people ask if we're together too

[BarryLiverstone]

In those cases he’s just feeling embarrassed. So that’s why you see his emotion

[BarryLiverstone]

Have you tried to set him up with a single friend?

[Asker]

But why would he feel embarrassed and the thing that confuses me Is he'd always hold my hand when we're either walking or sitting down or hug me

[Asker]

Yes many times and he says he doesn't like any of them

[BarryLiverstone]

He’s gotten used to that touch and holding hands. If you don’t like it be sure to tell him

[Asker]

That's the thing I don't mind it. It just confuses me

[BarryLiverstone]

Then there is no confusion. You don’t mind him hugging you and he’s just a friend.

Are you trying to get him to like you? Or better question are you just not attracted to him?

[Asker]

He never use to be like this till about three days ago

[BarryLiverstone]

What changed?

[Asker]

I don't know he started doing this after his girlfriend broke up with him

[zero444440000]

eh i have no answer, have u tired asking him why he got so angry?

[In_Trance]

for the same reason girls are

[Anonymous]

Because you didn't read the manual.