After getting to know me, he rejected me by saying that ‘we live very different lives’. Is this an insult?

[Anonymous]

I got to know this guy quite well and when we weren’t with each other we were constantly in touch. This went on for a few months. After quite clearly leading me on, he rejected me by saying that ‘we live very different lives’. I took this quite badly considering he had been asking me personal stuff. For example, he knew that I didn’t have any contact with my father and my mother died suddenly without a cause. He also knew about an eating disorder I have (he highlighted to me that there was a problem). I can’t help but take what he said personally and that he feels somewhat ‘above’ me. Everyone I’ve spoken to can’t see what other way he could mean it other than it being an indirect reference to my personal life. As you can probably guess, it’s not an easy idea to swallow 💔

[Cynicaldreamer]

No, he was just being honest- he doesn't think you're compatible: simple as that.

Trust me, be glad he told you now instead of further stringing you along! It seems insulting because you feel like you invested all your time, energy, and confided in him... which yeah, it does suck. But as hard as it might be to believe, it could have been worse.

[HelpfulWoman]

Not necessarily. It can literally just mean he doesn't think adding your lives together will work well.

[Anonymous]

He said “very different lives” and you converted that into “my life is better than yours.” Perhaps the problem is in your head and not his.

[LazerBean]

It's not an insult unless your lifestyle is shameful. Otherwise he's just being realistic and logical.

[boggboss]

Why does the reason matter int his situation