Am I expecting too much?

[Anonymous]

I have an abusive ex that has been bothering me lately, begging me to get back with him, sending me jewelry in the mail, having expensive dinners delivered, lingerie, etc. I did not ask for any of that but he won't stop. It's annoying. I am court obligated to keep in contact with him because I have 2 kids with him or else I'd block him and be done.

I've told my current boyfriend about this and all he says is that he doesn't know why my ex would want me back so bad. I wish that he would tell my ex to stop. Maybe my ex would stop if it came from a man.

[DaveJord]

I doubt it, if came from a man it would stop... actually it would only make it worse, to be honest. Your boyfriend is better served not getting involved. I would not.

I do not buy the court order excuse though. What he is doing is a form of harassment if its unwanted attention. You could get a court order tell him to stop, and it would not have to interfere with your children. Just a type of stop and desist order.

It more like an official hey, stop this behavior or I will have to take further actions... if you get it issued through the courts, then it would have no impact on your current support agreements... you can still come into contact with each other... just you are establishing that all other activities need to stop, or future court action will be taken which could have other consequences.

So, I would do this if you really wanted it stop, and not get you boyfriend tied up into some twisted love triangle with your ex. I would keep my boyfriend as far away from this as possible, but I would deal deliberately with my ex and get to stop. And I would seek legal advice... but I have money so I would pay a lawyer to hand it for me.
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