First off he’s not a mean guy or anything, just really quiet and doesn’t seem social. He lives in my building. I’ve seen him sitting alone a lot out places and never with a girl. We have a 20 year age difference. Anyway once I dropped all my groceries and he helped me pick them all up. But he just texts me to flirt. In the past he’s told me he’s worried he makes me uncomfortable. I have cleared this up several times so he knows I’m not.
I find the story a bit hard to believe, but I'll treat it a bit seriously for the sake of answering. I'll put myself into what I imagine the shoes of an antisocial 45 year old lonely man with possible self esteem issues. I will assume he is indeed single.
I would feel lost, wondering what I'm doing with my life, or at least occupying my thoughts with work or something else so I don't have to ponder it. My youthful years are behind me, and now I've gotten to that "undesirable" age. I feel old already, and I am expected to go about three more decades? It sucks.
The nice neighbor girl texts me sometimes, and it makes my day. It makes my day so much, that I put her on a pedestal and worry about being creepy or pushing her away somehow, so I back off a bit to compensate and let her breathe. Besides, she's two-whole decades younger than me. I was working for three years already by that point, and she had just been born. I understand that's an "adult," but we're at two different stages in life, and I don't want to drag her down.
But, she still texts me, so I'm going to be polite and text back. At least someone's checking in on me besides whatever family I have left.
I've lost all self confidence, and I do pretty good at hiding it, I think. I don't want the stigma of hooking up with a younger chick, at least not one that far away. I won't let myself dream of that possibly being okay to do.
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Because of the age gap. He assumes that you wouldn't be interested in a relationship. Ask him out yourself.
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