Y does he hate how confident I am?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend is use to girls depending on him but I'm use to doing stuff myself, he complains that it's not ladylike but I grew up with a single mom and 4 older sisters, getting stuff done myself if I want something is all I know, nth else. I have tried to make him feel more involved when he offered to buy me a pair of shoes, I waited 2 weeks then I never brought it up again and went a bought it myself. He got mad hhat I didn't remind I did twice afterwards. He also complains about when he offers to buy ne food outside I reject saying I have food, he has 2 daughters so I'm being considerate, I don't need him to impress me with all that. He says if I keep going pike this men will think they don't have to take care, I asked y would I need a man to take care of me, I've made it to 3rd year of uni by myself working night shifts so my mom doesn't have to stress about it. I have a lot of side hustles too, then he gets mad and calls me a bitch, was I too much and upset him. He also loves accusing me of sleeping with students at the boy school I tutor when I leave class a few minutes late , he asks if we were fu... king then says it's a joke but his laugh sounds fake, like it wasn't a joke, I tell him I don't find it funny but he keeps doing it, I broke up with him a few weeks ago. My friends didn't know and gave him my new number so I changed that too, did I dodge a bullet.

[_Maya_]

Yeah it definitely does look like you dodged a bullet to me. Reading through the parts where you say he calls you a bitch and accuses you of sleeping around would be a big enough red flag for me to move on. I don't know why he thinks he needs to provide everything in your life. By the way good for you for being able to take care of yourself and get through school. I am doing the same thing right now. I am in a masters degree program, work and pay my own bills. He shouldn't be so threatened by you being able to take care of yourself.

[provokeesmokee]

Yeah, you dodged a bullet! Sounds like he's upset you weren't the mommy he was looking for.

A lot of men think they're capable, but they really aren't.

Good on you. Good move.

[Finchie40]

It sounds like you did to me , he was more than likely the one that was being up to no good , usually when a partner blames you for pretty much everything and gets upset at you for petty things , they are usually the one that is a POS and the one that is screwing around , They point fingers at you so they can try to play a victim when really they are the POS

[boggboss]

Clearly this was never gonna work out u guys live completely different lifestyles and he clearly didn't trust u

[Asker]

But y , yh sure while we were talking I was talking to other guys. But then we got serious, I don't leave my house unless he pretty much invites me out which isn't all the time but I don't when I have classes, he says I'm not going to miss anything if I miss one. Sometimes I think he wants me to just become useless. I do with what I have until I can do better, he also pestered me for sex even when I dint want too claiming it doesn't matter what I want I just gotta keep my man happy.