Guys, is it weird that my fiancé locks the door to the bathroom and brings his phone for 40mins at a time every day?

[Anonymous]

He’s never forgotten his phone… not once when he goes to the bathroom. And he says he has “stomach issues” but half the time when he gets out the bathroom does not at all smell like poop. (And when he does poop it does). When I ask him about why he locks the door he gets really defensive and calls me crazy and insecure.

[slatyb]

That's a red flag -- not because of what he's doing, but because he's hiding it. That destroys relationships -- you don't even know who you are living with.

[Asker]

Thank you! Hiding what thought is the thing. Like maybe he’s just being stubborn refusing to not take his phone in the bathroom with him and he really does have stomach issues. Or maybe ur right he is hiding something

[slatyb]

He doesn't have stomach issues. If he did, he should be seeing a doctor. It seems likely he's masturbating to porn and is ashamed to admit it because he's afraid that you would disapprove. Would you? Either that or he's sexting with someone.

[BLP11520]

He is texting or sexting or jerking off

[Asker]

Thank you. What should I do? I already seem like a psycho asking him about it… I mean he called me crazy and insecure when I brought it up.

[slatyb]

"I mean he called me crazy and insecure when I brought it up."

That's gaslighting, and should be a deal-breaker.

"What should I do?" End this as soon as possible and meet someone capable of being a partner in an adult relationship.

[stratford]

You already know what he is doing in there...

[strateguy632]

same as a lady 40 minutes shower

[Anonymous]

I think not

[Asker]

You think it’s not weird?

[Opinion Owner]

It is weird