Guys, did he just admit I’m only a friends with benefits?

[Anonymous]

I’ve been talking to a guy for about a month. We have both said we liked each other and I’ve made it clear I have feelings for him. We will be meeting next month. Last night, he called me his dude. I didn’t like it and told him I felt friendzoned because of it. He said I’m his bff, lover and that’s special. Doesn’t that mean all he sees me as is a friends with benefits? I don’t want to question him further because we’ve only been talking, but I don’t want to continue or meet him if that’s all he sees me as.

[_Maya_]

I don't think that is necessarily true. That might just be his way of showing affection or using "pet" names. Doesn't mean that he views it the same way you do. I don't know how you can be friends with benefits having never met. Now if that is all he wants once you do meet then yeah you call it off but there is no indication from anything that you wrote that it is his intention. He probably just didn't want to look to clingy by saying he is in love or you are his girlfriend or whatever since you haven't even met yet.

[dynamicyandere]

It’s best to not assume that they are more committed than they actually are. But it’s also not good to expect the worst.


Then the time is right, you should have a DTR talk (Define The Relationship) to just have a real talk and get clear on exactly where you stand with him and where things are going, just to make sure you’re on the same page.


I as a guy, actually really appreciate DTR talks, because it ensures that neither of us have inaccurate expectations.


But if a guy is really avoiding a DTR talk, then he’s probably just playing with your heartstrings and has you on a rotation with other girls.

[dynamicyandere]

When the time is right*

[boggboss]

If your not willing to question him further u won't get the answers u are looking for

[shades777]

whats the problem