Let’s say you do like this guy, and you consider him a great, sweet guy. There’s no other guy in your picture you fancy. You’re leaving him over a disagreement/misunderstanding, a minor event. Would you reconsider? I understand it’s different if you found a new guy you like more or he cheated on you or did something bad. You decided you need some time to yourself because life is hectic with work, family and other stuff.
Girls, If you broke up with a guy and he pleaded and even cried how would you react?
What Girls Said
But it wouldn’t be a minor event if I was breaking up with him? And him crying changes nothing
You don’t think people make decisions irrationally or too quick or the heat of the moment? Things ended between her and I within a 15 minute convo when I had the flu so I couldn’t even think straight. I didn’t cry but I was upset. After talking to this about it with other people, others agree, including women, including my mom and my sisters that she made her decision too quick. Understand I care about her and I will continue praying for her well being. No one is perfect. When I told my sister she said clearly what happened was a disagreement and even during this disagreement I apologized to her saying I didn’t articulate that correctly through texts but she when you’re also feeling hella sick like what more can I say. Listen I don’t want to get bashed for this, you have your input and that’s fine but hand on God’s name I do care about her and to toss something out when there are people who are far worse I dunno, just my 2 cents.
What did she break up with you over
lol oh boy ok ill just try to give an overview breakdown leading to that moment. Basically last February 2023, some girl added me on Instagram and started following me, I didn't know who this girl was and her username was My Mom. I DM'd few wks after she added me and said, "hey you can't be my mom because you don't look like her so who are you?", she responds with LMAO, no no this is my name _____. Since there we had a good rapport and amazing convos that flowed so well. I didn't get mad at her, we were both busy. At that time I was finishing university and filling out graduation paper work, but also my dad was very sick and passed away on April 9th of this year, around that time she went on a long vacation for religious/spiritual reasons. But we chatted more on the phone and through texts and I respected her boundaries and space. Over the summer I think she was dealing with some stuff and she told me hey I gotta go MIA for a bit dont be mad, I said don't worry about message me when you're free. During these months leading up to the summer she really liked she was already planning what type of things to do outdoors. We met for the first time last Thursday on Oct 5th. The date went well, I went downtown to see her after she finished work. We grabbed a small bite, neither of us were that hungry, I gave her a small gift (rosey-scented candle) that reminded her of a city she visited. She texted me after that night had a great night, you made a great impression, very sweet thank you for the gift and basically left the door open for a second date.
Next day Friday I wasn't feeling well, I was supposed to go to a family wedding but didn't by Saturday last week had with a BAD flu, which I still kinda have but getting better. What happened was I just wanted to do a follow up. I thought she liked me but she said I don't see a future with guys down here at least not yet (is what she meant) basically she meant no one has WOW'd me and that's her way of saying need to get to know someone much better before I open my world. Not lying when I saying but I was delusional, throwing up in the garbage and sneezing like crazy, read the text wrong, told her I have to be honest with you, she said what? I said im embarrassed to say, end up telling her, she takes it the wrong way, I'm thinking oh shit my bad, I'm sorry she looked at that as disrespectful, mind you -- i didn't swear at her, didn't insult her family, it was a misunderstanding on my with my words and lack of communication from both, so ill take accountability. Then next day, she's like your a great guy with overall great qualities --- sweet, kinda, caring, ambitious, have your life goals set, working 2 jobs and etc. but I don't think you're the guy for me after what you said. Next day I text her, she's like I don't want to take rn. Left her alone.
Tried to be funny the next day, asked her about something, she's like I don't see this working out, we end up texting from midnight to 4am until she said lets call it a night and go to bed. I wake up at 11am texting her back, she's like i made my decision, I won't meet up with you again because the way you handled the situation. I swear on my dad's grave (I wouldn't make such a claim if I was lying) I didn't LOSE my shit. I explained to my older sister and she's like y'all clearly had a disagreement she took something soo personal and one day she'll learn. I didn't block her or anything, I have her #, she did block me, before we parted ways I wished her well, she even said if I see you i'll say hi. We go to the same religious places because we live in the same city. But I told her if she wants to reach out feel free to message im not going to be mad, she's like I don't hate you I think your a great guy and genuinely do mean that. That's the break down, sorry for the long messages.