What does this man want! He doesn’t organise dates but is also iffy about me coming over?

[Anonymous]

Long story short, I was talking to this guy back in June we caught up over dinner, the date went amazing and he immediately asked to see me again. Everything was fine, then BOOM he switched up 72 hours later but still texted, sent tik toks etc but was just ‘different’. I began to retreat because I could feel the energy was off, however one night we had a great convo, it was like the beginning again so I asked; do you still wanna catch up again? He said of course I do! I’ll let you know what times I’m free after work XX (he never got back to me and I waited for 2 days) so I blocked him. Fast forward to 3 weeks ago, we matched on hinge and he messaged me. We were talking and then the topic of catching up came up. I asked if I could borrow his jacket jokingly and he said “ it’ll cost you but nothing of the money sort”. I obviously took this as norti favours and was like okay cool! Well I can come over! And he seemed to not like that response? But he also doesn’t organise a beach walk, dinner, coffee etc so like WHAT DO YOU WANT? He’s had so many opportunities to organise a date and won’t but then I offer coming over and he talks about going on dates instead? Make it make sense please 🙃

[_Maya_]

Quite simply he isn't sure what he wants. Sounds like a guy that likes the idea of you but not sure if he really wants to commit to anything. If he is constantly jerking you around I would say move on. I am surprised that after you blocked him he even wanted to talk again. That is a pretty strong response to him being noncommittal the first time around. I see that the second (or is it third now) time he is much the same. He just sounds like aa guy that isn't going to commit to anything and has zero clue what he wants. One second it sounds good and the next not so much. I'd move on.

[Asker]

I agree! It’s just very frustrating 😅

[_Maya_]

Totally frustrating. I would be too.

[236color]

I think he's scared. He's not ready for the relationship to get more intimate. Wants to stay in public so it won't. I don't think this is because he doesn't want to, he's most likely inexperienced and scared. If you want to level up, you may have to get more direct. Otherwise, you'll have to go on his time table.

[coachTanthony]

Just ask yourself is this the type of behavior I want in a person that I am dating? Use this question as part of your vetting process. If it's a NO then just move on. Wishy Washy isn't about you it's all about them and the chaos of a life they live in.

[Avicenna]

If you can’t tell, no one else but him can. Ask him what specifically he wants to do on a date.

[In_Trance]

So why do you keep seeing him?