I've been friends with benefits with a guy for a year he's busy working a lot now. So, we don't get to see each other as much as we used to. Sometimes we go months without seeing each other. I saw him yesterday and we talked. I told him I went on a date with another guy and this is how the conversation started. He told me not to limit myself and that it was okay for me to date. And that I should do things that don't include him. Because I deserve to be happy and if dating other people makes me happy then it's ok (I told him I was dating someone). He said I deserve to be happy. And to be involved with someone who can give me more of their time etc. I get what he's saying but I told him that it wasn't an issue for me. And that I like spending time with him because I feel safe.
I asked him flat out if he was saying he didn't want to see me again. And he said that wasn't what he was saying.
He told me that he doesn't have many friends and that he only talks to his mother, her boyfriend, and his two other friends. He has issues with communication. He also asked me if the guy texts me.
He told me to let him know if I start having sex with someone else. And that he and I would stop having sex and just be friends. And that there would be no more (sexy) time. Then he made a comment saying something like *I could get you back started having sex again* and he laughed. So basically if he and I are just friends without the sex. He believes that he can just get me back started again.
I have gone out on two dates with a guy and we are going on a third date soon. However, I do not plan to sleep with him anytime soon. But this guy isn't into all the things I like sexually with my friends with benefits.
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