Okay to add some background details, my boyfriend and I have this mutual friend. Let’s call her, “Harper”. One day, while I was in Arizona, they hungout for an hour and a half without telling me. He usually lets me know what he does or who he hangs with (willingly!). Yet, he did not tell me this until AFTER. I asked if he brought his phone. He said yes. I asked if he seen me text, he said no. I truly don’t believe this but it’s been months now and we’re still together. At a point, I do trust them both. But he does have a past of flirting with girls on social MEDIA. Such as heart eyes, swiping up, etc. Nothing ever physically happened. Anywho, this sparked some anger towards both of them. I felt slightly betrayed in a sense, since there was no communication (although I know it’s HIS job, not hers to tell me). What’s weird is she didn’t text me for about a month after that happened. I never even addressed it. She would always texts my friends, but not me. I brought it up and she said it was due to mental health issues. After that, we sort of connected again. ANY WHOODLE, my boyfriend is in her private story where she posts photos of her, her body, booty pictures, and butt bathing suit videos of her friends where she’s arching her back. Should I address this and ask him to leave it? I feel as though that’ll cause drama. I hate drama and am fine with overthinking to a certain point. Can anyone please provide advice on the things that I mentioned? I would truly appreciate this. Guys, what do you think? Women…do you think I should let this go? Am I being over dramatic?
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I can understand wanting to keep friends and lover separately but I do believe you are being somewhat controlling because you are no longer just bothered by it, you seem to be demanding because of it, I believe you should take a chill pill, let's get thinking real quick, this guy has been faithful to you since the beginning you said right, always tells you when and who he hangs with and I think he's earned your benefit of the doubt, and I know it's not him you don't trust, it's her, completely understand but you are taking a very toxic approach on the situation, about the private story as well, if it bothers You, do make it clear to him but don't be that bossy girl where you start demanding him cause that will just make everyone angry which seems like you've already started pissing people off, communicate with your boyfriend and tell him that it bothers you and tell him why, if he's a loyal and understanding boyfriend he shouldn't have a problem doing so, but dont lose your shit over this.
You should end the relationship.
But you probably won’t because in typical female fashion. Your man is the one cheating on you, and you get mad at the girls he’s doing it with clearly indicating you’re not happy with HIS decisions rather than teaching him a lesson by walking away. This is why these girls also keep getting cheated on by the way.
Cause the guy see’s he can keep doing it and he won’t be the one the girl is mad at