My male friend and I have become very close over the last year, we were hanging out just us once or twice a week, messaging everyday and he was initiating 99% of it. We also work together and he would be following me around at work and talking constantly. One of our colleagues told him I had feelings for him and asked him if he liked me, he said he only saw me as a friend. I spoke to him about it a few days later to check that it hadn’t made him uncomfortable and explained that I hadn’t said anything cause I was trying to get rid of my feelings as I was happy being friends. He was awkward for around a week and then started going back to normal, sending me messages and trying to get my attention at work, however he started doing slightly weird stuff that came across like he was trying to get my attention or make me jealous. I haven’t seen him much in the last month but staff have reported that he’s starting acting unusual and being colder to everyone, however he was still messaging me. I noticed the other day that he hasn’t opened a message I sent him last week and he hasn’t sent me anything in nearly 2 weeks which is the longest in almost a year. It’s just confused me because he said he only saw me as a friend to our colleague but has not tried to talk to me about the situation at all and has then started trying to get my attention and is now acting normal at work but not messaging me or opening the message I sent a week ago. I just don’t know why we could be such close friends and then go to nothing when we had both said we just wanted to be friends
Why is he doing this? Have I done something to make him dislike me?
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That is weird. I don't know what's up with your friend.
When our other friend asked him if he liked you, maybe he got freaked out even though he said you're just friends. Guys can get weird about feelings stuff.
Then he was trying to act all cool again at first. But maybe deep down he's confused about what he really wants. Or maybe he started liking you back without realizing.
Ignoring your message is rude though. I'd just straight up ask him what his deal is. Tell him you value his friendship and you're both cool just being buds, but his hot/cold act is messing with your head.
If he's a real friend he'll be honest. Could be he just needs to figure himself out. But you deserve to know so you're not left hanging, you know?
Hope you guys can work it out. Try not to stress - his problem is his own. Just focus on your other friends for now if he's acting flakey. Maybe he'll come around.
Well, probably because you used a go between to let him know you were interested (which was a totally lame move) then you backpedal like crazy when he didn't feel the same...🙄... and you don't understand why things aren't the same?