Would you give a pet to a situationship?

[Anonymous]

For lack of better terms my situationship person expressed interest in the kitten I’m fostering. This guy said he wasn’t that into me, which is whatever but he’d like to remain friends. Which was fine but he got dry texting me, it was like he was treating me like I was fragile or something. It frustrated me to the point I figured he didn’t like me as a person and I woke up one day blocked him for a month. I really was going to keep him blocked. I took the interest in the kitten as a manipulation tactic. I sat back and assessed. I think I was more projecting my fears. The guy hasn’t ever been obnoxious nor disrespectful to me or my boundaries.

I know I don’t owe anyone anything. Usually I wouldn’t care. However I do care that I told him I’d check back with him if the other person wasn’t interested. Surprise, they aren’t. I thought maybe I should keep the kitten, but my mental health is really taking a nosedive. I think it’d be cruel to the kitten to just to drop him at a shelter and I’ve already invested some bit into him (I can’t drop his play tent with him. I’ve travel and leash trained him and he’s had his vet visit.). I generally like the kitten but he really triggers my anxiety/OCD and it’s overwhelming for me if he makes a mess. I know my mental state isn’t the best right now. If I could afford my meds and therapy it’d probably be different. I’ve since unblocked the guy two weeks ago. He’s seen a few of my stories but hasn’t said anything even when I did mention the kitten in the stories. I didn’t expect him to but I want the kitten to have a good home by February. Should I reach out and give him a chance to meet him, see if they vibe?

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

I think pets belong in homes for people who really love them sadly my cousin has 3 kids and a house full of animals which she doesn't need, and she's always on FB being all about her and her guy, I would never use a pet to bring me and a woman together if she was toxic, I am an animal lover and so sad when people starve animals to death or strike them with objects can we imagine the pain they experience it's horrible. One time we saved a starving mixed dog, and she was a wonderful pet she lived outside, but we made sure she was given food and water and straw for her dog house.

[Asker]

I’m not toxic so much as I have diagnosed anxiety—Obsessive compulsive disorder. I think I was a little better when the kitten was supposed to only be with me temporarily. Then it became more definite when the person I was fostering the kitten for backed out last minute. I asked around and people seemingly didn’t like cats. When I was promoting training him on social media to hopefully gain more interest in case that person flaked all these people that supposedly didn’t like cats got cats. As far as the guy is concerned despite our personal differences he said he was interested in the kitten. I just didn’t quite understand his motives. He has the means to adopt a pet and he asked me? Why? He wanted the kitten before I cleaned him, trained him, and took him to the vet. Out of fear bc people have done some pretty terrible things to me and to whatever they perceive I have interest in. I thought it was manipulative and blocked him. I like the kitten I like foster parenting animals but not so much having a permanent pet. This is upsetting my OCD I cleaned the floor for three hours with a steamer and bleach the other day bc he accidentally stepped in his poop. It was all a stressful event bc after cleaning him up, I had to put him in his kitty complex so I could clean the floors and my house shoes etc. It wasn’t his bed time and so he threw a tantrum and cried then after I cleaned the floors I just went in my room and cried bc it’s the entire scope of this is an animal they don’t really grow up. Doing this everyday for 15years down the line doesn’t really make me happy or excited. I don’t understand people like him that do find it exciting. Outside of feeding, training and playing with him I don’t really know what else to do with him. I’m well aware the kitten is a feeling creature and I would like to hope the guy would want to give him a good home. I just asked on here cause I guess I want to gather what a potential reaction might be?

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Thanks for MHO :)

[pickles77]

You could it would just be a little awkward because you blocked him

[Asker]

I thought so too but he’s the person that has said to me on several occasions, I quote: “it’s only awkward if you’re going to make or think it’s awkward.”

[pickles77]

Nothing wrong with the transaction just be friendly and don’t block him next time

[Anonymous]

The old bait & switch. Start the story with a kitten, & end it with some high school dating drama. Just dump the guy and keep the cat.

[Asker]

Well clearly you didn’t read, or you probably would’ve understood the context of the question. I’m not even dating or seeing the guy to break up with him. He’s literally just the only other person I know that would adopt the cat. The actual backstory of how I got the cat is long but at the end of the day I don’t really want a pet right now but most people either don’t want cats or literally thought I made having a cat look cool and adopted a cat. Infuriating.

[Opinion Owner]

You could drop it off at the Humane Society but those bastards charge $100.

[Anonymous]

Why do you keep posting these long anonymous questions and saying situationship all the time?

[Anonymous]

I won’t give a pet to a situationship but I would give a PAT to a situationship’s dick

[FunkyMonkee]

What's a situationship? There's no such word.

[Asker]

We started out as good acquaintances, had relations for a brief minute but there was no definitive status of what was going on. Situational but still romantic relationship level interactions is called a situationship. Now it’s changed to platonic friends. It’s all really more complicated than it needs to be but it’s a long probably boring story of two people overthinking. I explained the shortest version for the gravity of what’s going on. My friends either have a pet or don’t want a cat. Because I was trying to promote the kitten is a foster and adoptable a bunch of people think he’s my cat I want to keep. My relative that was going to adopt him said no. The now platonic friend said he would be interested in taking him if my aunt decided to not take him. That’s been just over a month now since I’ve talked to him and I guess I’m kind of hesitant on asking him.

[sheikalana]

Absolutely not.

[WhitneySnow]

Yes!