We met last Feb and kept talking for a month. Then I got so afraid because I had never fallen in love. So unpurposely I ghosted him for three months then we met again by chance without planning it. I said sorry things came up with my family and we became friends again.
My feelings didn't vanish so I confessed to him that I liked him after 6 months of texting, but he said, "Sorry I lost my feelings when you were away, I was so happy when you were back and tried to catch feelings for you again but I couldn't". I told him that it was not a problem, it was an experience and we both had fun and we could still be friends. ** I was completely friendly and didn't show that I was upset that even he was surprised and said, "Wow, I didn't expect this reaction, i was afraid to lose or hurt you"**
But texting became tedious afterward and sometimes I don't text back but still, he contacts me and wonders why I am not replying.
Why doesn't he let me go?
Does he like me?
Or is he just afraid of losing the chance that one day we can be together?
PS, I decided to not answer him again even when he texts me to make sure I'm still available.
That way I leave some space for him to decide what he wants. I don't know if it's the right move or not.
My feelings didn't vanish so I confessed to him that I liked him after 6 months of texting, but he said, "Sorry I lost my feelings when you were away, I was so happy when you were back and tried to catch feelings for you again but I couldn't". I told him that it was not a problem, it was an experience and we both had fun and we could still be friends. ** I was completely friendly and didn't show that I was upset that even he was surprised and said, "Wow, I didn't expect this reaction, i was afraid to lose or hurt you"**
But texting became tedious afterward and sometimes I don't text back but still, he contacts me and wonders why I am not replying.
Why doesn't he let me go?
Does he like me?
Or is he just afraid of losing the chance that one day we can be together?
PS, I decided to not answer him again even when he texts me to make sure I'm still available.
That way I leave some space for him to decide what he wants. I don't know if it's the right move or not.
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Dude, this whole situation sounds confusing as hell. Here's what I think is going on:
- Even though he said his feelings faded, I bet part of him still likes you deep down. Why else obsess over your texts?
- He probably felt bad letting you down easy at first. Now he misses the attention you used to give him.
- Guys can be stupid - he may think keeping you on the back burner is a good idea in case he changes his mind later.
- By not responding, you've challenged him a bit now. Made him question if you'll always be available when he feels like chatting.
Giving each other space is smart. It'll force him to acknowledge what he really wants - just keeping you around, or actually committing if there could be more.
My advice? Don't double text waiting for his response now. Ball's in his court. If he likes you, he'll step up and prove it. If not, you've saved yourself drama down the line. You're young - don't waste your time on maybes. You deserve a clear yes or no!
I'm super thankful for your response, I did really clear up things for me.
He actually texted me again two hours ago after me not replying for 2 days so I decided not to respond for a couple of weeks.
I don't know how to come back or what to say after these weeks.
But still, I'm afraid that he could think I am a bad person or that his decision to stop liking me is a true one.
Thank you again for your help.
Ay yo no problem at all, glad I could help offer some perspective! And good for you laying low for a couple weeks - you're playing it totally right by keeping him guessing a bit.
As for when/if you do reply, I wouldn't overthink it or make it a big thing. Just keep it casual like you've been busy or whatever. Don't give him any sign you've been anxiously waiting on his texts.
And seriously, don't stress what he may be thinking of you either way. His loss of feelings or opinions don't determine your worth at all! You're a boss chick who knows her value.
Maybe reply after 2 weeks with something light like "hey, been swamped with work/school lately. What's new with you?" See how he responds before opening up more.
Let him do the chasing a bit. You got this sis! And remember, whether it goes anywhere or not with him, keep your eyes open for someone who will make their feelings crystal clear no doubt about it.
You got this - stay solid in your confidence. Can't wait to see how it plays out! Keep me posted.
He's probably still trying to catch feelings for you
How do you 'unpurposely' ghost someone for three months?