Guys, Do guys dump girls who are too pretty for them?

[Anonymous]

I have observed that my conventionally attractive friends tend to get dumped sooner than women who are average or below average looking. I have also observed this pattern with men I work with. I do not mean to say that my friends who are not conventionally attractive have bad personalities; on the contrary, they often have more modest dating expectations. This is just something I have noticed and I am curious to know if men feel intimidated by looks or if it is simply a matter of lack of connection?

[MrOracle]

Many (not all!) beautiful women have insanely high expectations and are used to being deferred to or to getting away with terrible behavior because of their beauty. And while men may initially be attracted to them because of their beauty, looks really only get you through the door - they won't sustain a relationship if the rest of that person is rotten or selfish or mentally unstable.

You might notice that a lot of men choose more average-looking girls for serious relationships, because those girls tend to be more grounded in reality and don't have such insane expectations of the man - and tend to have better personalities, morals, and values overall.

I explain this to both guys and girls: if you only pursue looks, you're more likely to end up with someone whose looks have let them get away with selfish and amoral behavior, and now YOU are going to be dealing with that person and that behavior, and no matter how good they look, none of that is going to matter when you are having constant emotional battles with them.

[Lionman95]

I think it´s both. If a guy is intimidated by looks he won´t develop a deeper connection. I wouldn´t say that all guys dump women they consider too pretty but some do mostly because they are insecure in some way. If a woman is very attractive she´ll get a lot attention from other guys that might lead a guy to think of others guys as his rival so instead feeling in a competition for her all the time he goes for a less attractive woman that gets less attention hoping he can build a relationship with her.

[Lionman95]

Thanks for the MHO

[b_lova]

I made this mistake once and thought about her for 20+ years found her and rekindled our relationship and we have been together now for 3.5 years

The thing is that we want the "pretty girl" but we fear that the she will break our heart so we will drop the pretty ones much faster than the "average looking ones".

[RammyM]

Men value physical beauty so no for that reason.

I'm gonna be brutally honest here; it's easy to like something that's pretty but it's really hard to keep liking something that's boring. If I meet a girl and her only interesting feature is that she's pretty, then there's simply nothing of value to even have a connection this, no?

Also, I think telling yourself the reason why people lose interest in because they're too pretty is a good coping strategy for not having to confront being uninteresting - if we are blaming others for our own failings

[BoopBoopBeep]

Not because they're "too pretty for me" because that doesn't exist. The problem is the ones who also come with a sense of entitlement. "Show me the hottest woman in the world and I'll show you a man who is sick of her shite" is an actual saying for a reason. If they're causing drama or coming with some princess shite... nope... gotta go.

[Anonymous]

"I do not mean to say that my friends who are not conventionally attractive have bad personalities"

Sorry, but that is the only explanation. They have issues that either you're not aware of, or you're not being honest about here.

[turnpost]

The girls, lose there enthusiasm. The romance is no longer unique and the men become just another number in there ladder of fishing for better men.

Likewise for good looking guys.

[tzdc21]

Uh, no. They dump girls who act like crap. Or at least they should, unless they are crap themselves. I don't know about your friends or the guys so I can't make a judgement.

[Billlewis]

No, we either avoid asking them out to begin with, or they dump us when they find a guy they like better.

[Anonymous]

There is nothing wrong with having a pretty girl. But sometimes they're more about money than anything else. Some average girls will bend over backwards And show more care

[Asker]

I get that. Trust me I do. I just find the girls I know who are conventionally attractive are actually more humble with their standards as they tend to get less interest than the average girls I know.

[Opinion Owner]

A lot of girls act that way. they're more for the money. Do you consider yourself better looking than her

[Asker]

Who is her? I wasn’t referring to someone specific

[Opinion Owner]

Your friend

[Asker]

I’d say she’s more pretty than I

[Opinion Owner]

I'm sure you're beautiful in your own way.

[Opinion Owner]

Can I follow you

[exitseven]

It may seem like this but maybe it is because the hot girls can be selfish and overbearing

[LiamJHayden]

A pretty face might hide a hideous heart. I'd rather date and average girl who is sweet than a beauty queen who is also drama.