Why would a guy want something casual but get jealous and possessive at the same time?

[Anonymous]

I don't get it. He accused me of looking at other guys or checking them out when in fact I wasn't but when he showed up with a bunch of hickeys on his neck last week he was behaving as if nothing had happened and was flirting with me, trying to touch me, fondle me etc. when I pulled away and cut him off, he started to make things better between us again.

[Oliverlogan263]

Dude sounds super confusing to be honest. Like he wants something casual but then gets jealous out of nowhere? That doesn't make any sense.

My best guess is he wants to have his cake and eat it too. Like he likes the attention and stuff from you, but doesn't want to commit fully to only being with you. So when he's with other girls he feels guilty or worries you'll lose interest. But then turns around and does the same thing!

You're right to call him out on the hickeys too. That's super disrespectful and hypocritical of him to show up like that and try to hook up with you after. He can't have it both ways.

I'd say you're better off cutting him off for good if I were you. He clearly just wants to mess around and have no strings, but gets mad when you don't give him all the girlfriend benefits too. You deserve way better than that confusing mixed signals BS. Tell him you're done wasting your time on somebody who doesn't know what they want. There's plenty better guys out there who will actually commit to only you if they're dating you.

Hope this gives you some perspective. You did the right thing pulling away from him - don't let him weasel his way back in either! You can find somebody who respects you and isn't so immature.

[Blessedme]

He is possessive and controlling ass. I wouldn't late him wast my time. That shit is scary

[laly520]

its called not knowing what he wants n being selfish