Do men pretend to be happy after a breakup? If yes, why?

[Elena_Stewart]

[HawkPerception]

Men are all different and all have different methods of getting over a breakup. One such way of getting over a breakup is to "fake it till you make it." It's very possible if you convince yourself you're happy without her, then you'll be happy.

I myself get over breakups pretty easily, telling myself things like "If she left me, then she didn't value me. I'll find someone who has more chemistry with me eventually." Stuff like that.

And I love this story and the message behind it:

A father said to his daughter “You graduated with honors, here is a car I acquired many years ago. It is several years old. But before I give it to you, take it to the used car lot downtown and tell them I want to sell it and see how much they offer you. The daughter went to the used car lot, returned to her father and said, “They offered me $1,000 because it looks very worn out.” The father said, ”Take him to the pawnshop.” The daughter went to the pawnshop, returned to her father and said, ”The pawn shop offered $100 because it was a very old car.” The father asked his daughter to go to a car club and show them the car. The daughter took the car to the club, returned and told her father,” Some people in the club offered $100,000 for it since it’s a Nissan Skyline R34, an iconic car and sought out after by many.” The father said to his daughter, ”The right place values you the right way,” If you are not valued, do not be angry, it means you are in the wrong place. Those who know your value are those who appreciate you. Never stay in a place where no one sees your value.

[Elena_Stewart]

Great🙂

[KrakenAttackin]

It can take years to recover from a breakup.

[Summeroflove]

I think it really just depends. I don’t think a lot of men allow themselves to grieve things, even when they’re alone. But eventually it comes out.


Moving on from a relationship, even a short one can be hard and if people chose to have sex before marriage. Then they built ties to one another.


Everyone’s grieving process is different. Some move on faster than others. It also depends on the specific relationship. If someone cheated on someone and things seemed to be going really well, that can be a lot harder then. A 3 month relationship and you just have too many differences

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

Not on purpose. I had a bad break up one time and kept trying to persuade myself that I was totally fine and happy even though I wasn't. I wasn't pretending in the sense of trying to act like I was happy to other people. More like I was genuinely trying to find ways to be happy. Also I did convince myself that I was multiple times but then end up getting upset again when I was alone.

I do a similar thing with the loss of loved ones. It usually doesn't hit me until later than women since I need to get on with the day.

[JacobJordan]

No we just taking longer to process it than women do. Women cry immediately and then move on. Men largely deny the break up at first and then we get to accepting and sadness. Most guys typically spend the first weeks hoping the girl comes back. The next week's processing and accepting and then we move on. Women tend to process and accept then celebrate then realize they messed up and become miserable and try and come back. By that point it is too late

[BoopBoopBeep]

No I'm not pretending. If the relationship was sucking to the point of impending breakup then it was just a matter of time. Sooner better than later. If it was a complete shock out of left field, well, better sooner than later still.

[adam6402]

Because it pisses girls off to see their ex doing so well while they're still down, and getting out and having fun takes my mind off the matter and helps to deal with the situation.

[BuffTaco]

Denial is the first stage of grief. Some people stay in it longer than others.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Neither of those are realistic depictions.
A person is either going to be miserable for a while, or they willl be relieved immediately and stay that way.

[RebelinSteel]

I can’t say for anyone else but I do not see point of pretending, if I am upset I will say it n show it, if I’m fine I will say so.

[HighValue]

I was much happier after I left my ex wife because life was so much less stressful and I could do whatever I want ALL THE TIME. :)

[ProbablyClueless]

Sometimes we pretend to be happy... Sometimes the breakup is just a relief at first. The emotions just hit us at a different time.

[Juxtapose]

I'm smart enough to realize that if someone is not interested in me they are not good relationship material for me. Why would I mourn the loss of someone who would just make me miserable?

[ab2shifty]

I had a homie who legit celebrated after his breakup 🤣

[Elena_Stewart]

Intresting😁

[ab2shifty]

He threw a party and invited every friend 💀

[Elena_Stewart]

That’s too much😁😁

[ab2shifty]

Ay the girl broke up with him, at least he wasn’t sad 🤣

[SunnyRS]

Can't say about other's but I don't pretend to be happy after a break up.
I suppress my sadness and move on, although that might look like pretending to be happy to some people.

[LiamJHayden]

I don't pretend. I am either happy, relieved, or philosophical, depending upon why it happened.

[TonyMetal___86]

It depends, but i don't think that a break up is something funny, it will always hurts wether it was the good decision or not...

[SotiCoto]

Yes. Also No.
Just Yes for some men, No for others.
Obviously.

[Yannae]

Only the ones who are fake. I was happy because I was better off without her.

[Pterodon]

I don’t hide my feelings. I have been relieved before but I’ve also been pissed and heartbroken

[Fromdusktilldawn]

Translator

its to destract from the bad feelings

[eagle1951]

sometimes, if we cared, if we didn't then no

[Massageman]

To save their image and ego.

[Awomanof]

They have ego issues