Firstly, I’ll explain that we’ve both got Asperger’s, but I’m mild and this guy is either moderate or moderate to severe. He claims to be a reserved guy. He chased me for over two years, then said he loves me. I asked him out, making it clear that I was asking him out on a date for this weekend; and he was unresponsive. I am confused. He claims to be a shy person and when I knew him, he admitted to a fear of intimacy. But that was 3 years ago. I thought if both of you love each other, you go on a date? To be absolutely sure that it’s still love and not just an echo of the past?
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Is it nerves on his part, games, or lack of interest? What’s the best way to react?
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Perhaps he's still fearing intimacy, maybe for unknown reasons. Maybe he got a little dick🤔. Maybe he's afraid of messing up with you. I'm sure he does like you, he just has a fear of showing it. Through actions anyway
As far as what you should do, I mean perhaps ask him what he wants. Because you asked him out on a date and he didn't day anything so it makes it seem like he's not interested
Find out his true intentions and get him to open up.
Before I asked him out, he said straight out that he loves me and that he wants a relationship.
Then when I didn’t react, he said that he’d made up a partner to try to make me jealous (I’d needed time to decide whether or not it was a good idea to reveal that I felt the same way).
Then I decided and told him and asked him out and he went weird.
Ahhh it could very well be a revenge thing then
He's reacting the same way you did when he wanted to be in a relationship with you
The evidence being that he literally MADE up someone to make you jealous
He's playing a game on that one. To show you how you made him feel when you reacted the same way
Now remember everything I say is from a third person point of view. I know him none. You do so don't take what I say as 100% factual, rather to just help you come to a conclusion
How should I handle it? Explain why I wasn’t comfortable opening up sooner, or ignore him, if he’s going to be dramatic? Just keep him as a web pal but not seek him out?
I’m not really upset. I just find it weird.
Depends on what you want
If you still like him then ask him to open up and explain your side
If you don't feel like dealing with the bullshit. Then move on
If you want to wait for him to get it together then just keep him there and wait til he does something. Let him make the move
I just think it was worth a try. I have feelings for him, but I’ve reached the point where I’m happy enough without him if he won’t date me. What would you suggest I do?
I think if you do want to be with him
Try to communicating with him and telling your side If that doesn't work then move on. Because at least you tried you know🤔 can't look back and think, " damn maybe if I tried with him I could be happier" because you DID try
Great advice. Thanks, I’ll try that 😊
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@mwbdbl I’m not sure what that means
yes it is
Yes it is what?