Why does this guy try to look good for her but not for me if he had a crush on me?

[Anonymous]

His friend told me that he was really into me for years. He would sneak glances when I was distracted but never found the courage to come up and talk to me. Months later he met a girl in a lecture in college (which I also attended) that started flirting with him and he confidently flirted back. From then on he started dressing nicer to this lecture. Why didn’t he ever put in the effort for me if he had a crush on me for years?

He thinks it’s not worth it because you’re not interested in him

He thinks she is cuter than you

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[Anonymous]

Opposites attract. If you’re a shy, apprehensive person and so is he, then no progress would’ve ever been made because neither of you had to courage to approach the other. This woman on the other hand did have the confidence to openly flirt, and as a result that’s why he has lost interest in you (no offense) and set his sights on her now. He’s confident to speak with her and dress up for her because there’s no confusion about her interest, even you can see it.

[Asker]

If he has lost interest then why does he still glance at me when he thinks I don’t notice?

[Opinion Owner]

You’re in class together, do you expect for him to never glance at you during? The problem is that you naturally put more behind him looking over at you because once upon a time he was really into you, made a playlist, etc etc. But what you need to understand (and have likely experienced yourself) is that a person can outgrow their crush. You can be very interested in someone at one point in your life then stop having a crush for whatever reason. Anyone can attest to this, even you.

[Asker]

He turns around to glance at me and yes I don’t do that to other people

[Asker]

And no I never lost feelings for anyone all of a sudden unless they did something very questionable

[Opinion Owner]

Oh wow, must be nice to have never taken interest in a guy even in high school lol. Anyway, I wouldn’t make anything of him looking at you, at least not anymore. In my mind he’s probably confused about the whole situation. Like you stare at this guy, he can probably feel it (I know I would) and he turns around to acknowledge you. I think he’s friendly towards you since you are classmates but that’s the current extent. Maybe at one point he had all those feelings but now he’s set his sights elsewhere. It’s ok, I think it’s just a sign to be more confident and make a move so you don’t miss your shot.

[Anonymous]

Probably bcs he’s much more interested in the other girl. He might have a crush on you back then but had no intention of actually pursuing you but he might actually be trying to actively pursue a relationship of some kind with the new girl. The fact that she also made a move on him probably boosted up his confidence in pursuing her.

[velvetheart]

maybe he didn't think about it lol.
not dressing up didn't work on you so maybe dressing up will work on her I don't know 🤣

[Asker]

He made a romantic playlist for me that he deleted 3 months after he met her but I think there is nothing going on between them anymore

[spartan55]

What do you mean 'try to look good'

[Asker]

He dresses differently and more stylish/flattering

[spartan55]

First of all, that's completely subjective. Second, what makes you think the way he dresses has anything to do with you?

[Asker]

I think it has to do with another girl

[Asker]

Because I’ve known him for 7 years and he wore the same outfits until he met her

[spartan55]

Okay, so what?

[Asker]

Why does he dress differently for her but not for me?

[spartan55]

You don't know that it's because of her.