Why does this guy keep inviting me out to places then stop texting me?

[irexxana]

He's so weird. he's highly attractive. Bulk tatted nice butt and just a nice face. He's in my city for business. We hung out once. Picked him up and drove him around. He has a big ego and very confident about himself. He keeps asking if I want to go to different places or see shows. I reply with sure, I guess. Or he asks me to go eat breakfast. I tell him to look at this place and he likes it. I say yes it's so good. He stops texting before we can finalize. Always at night time he stops. Here's the catch. He's cute, but I don't see myself liking him. I just think he's a chill guy and I'd hang out with him. Not sure if he's trying to hook up and keep me in a game with others he's texting? He already told me he has other girls he meets and texts and try to hangout with in my city. I'm cool about it and just indifferent. He keeps asking me to see shows with him and stuff. I tell him ok let me know details. He stops texting or he invites me to something different and changes his mind? He kept saying he wanted to meet my dogs. Also asking how my day was. I'm up for hanging out but this is getting annoying. I told him I'm not trying to hook up. He stated to me in the car that he's just looking for people to hang out with. Ok so why does he keep flaking?

He's weird - maybe short term memory

He's just bored and talking to so many people that whatever girl says yes first he goes

He's a guy

[little_bird1]

I met a guy like that 2 months ago. Maybe it's even the same guy? haha! Anyways, I think he just wants to hang out. Like friends. Since he moves around he is looking for people to hang out with and he wants to explore places. He is probably very busy with his work too. I met my guy on Tinder and I thought that meeting people on Tinder means looking for someone romantically/sexually, like dates and stuff, or nothing. But some people, especially the ones who move around often, use Tinder to find friends as well. So I was very surprised when he friendzoned me. But I got over it, we're still friends. He moved to another city 5 days ago, for business.

[irexxana]

Omg! What's his name maybe he is the same guy. I automatically set the vibe as friends only thouh, lol. But it seems that he still does the sexual escapades

[little_bird1]

Nah can't be the same guy, I just saw that you're from US. This guy and I are from Europe. :) Anyways, just keep being friends, if you like hanging out with him. If you want something more then just ask him what's his deal. But I wouldn't have any expectations.

[Anonymous]

I know exactly what this is. He's talking and going out with multiple people, spread thin, and it doesn't look like you're one of the priority ones. He wants to keep a hold of you in case others don't work out though. He will probably keep talking about places to go and shows to see, but won't end up doing any of them, and instead at some point he might try to arrange a situation where he can hook up with you, or he'll disappear one day and never reply back.

This guy is a waste of time. I would cut him loose and spend your time on another guy or guys who are more engaged in dating you and don't flake.

[irexxana]

Yeah I figured. He's definitely the hookup type. He was telling me a story on last time he was in my city and that he went home with a girl and then lost all his luggage. Why he tell me that? I don't know. I'm glad he won't go through with it because I'm a bit tired of driving people around to hangout with them. he's a cool guy to talk to. But I wouldn't date him. He's cute but I can already see his that the more he opens his mouth and tell me stuff-- he's a player. Lol. I don't think he finds me sexually attractive anyways. He just wanted people to hang out with. He didn't show any sexual desires when we hung out the first time.

[Opinion Owner]

Ah, of course. He told you that to communicate that he's attractive to other girls, he hooks up, and is the type of guy to have crazy one night stands. That puts that possibility in your head, and it's supposed to make you think, if other girls did it, you could too and it'd be no big deal to him because it's apparently nothing new to him. How annoyingly manipulative lol.

Anyway, good call! There are better people to hang out with.

[irexxana]

He just texted me twice at midnight and this morning. Saying where can we get food like this? Then he invited me to a show on Thursday when we agreed to Wednesday. Should I lie and say I'm going out of town now. It was nice to meet you though! Just leave it at that? Now he's annoying me lol

[irexxana]

He was a douche bag already.
So I went with the lie about going out of town. For him to have a safe trip back and nice meeting him. He replies with "lol" and that's it. -__- what a gentleman... *rolls eyes*

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah, good riddance lol

[akanetuk]

He is joking

[irexxana]

Joking for games? It's annoying. I just want to hang out with people. I don't see why he needs to joke.

[akanetuk]

When someone does not take you serious, you too should not take him serious.

[orphan]

post an actual text of this exchange.

[orphan]

from "Here's the thing" to the end... you're just reasoning your way into thinking he's a bad idea altogether... which is a defense mechanism for the subtle rejections.

[irexxana]

He keeps inviting me places but yeah I really don't want to go and drive him everywhere to be honest. I try to stay nice and still text him back. He keeps saying lets go here or let's go there. I'm just like meh. It was fun and exciting meeting him at first but now I don't have the energy or money to burn hanging out with him. He did talk about the girls he had encounters with (sexually) and I felt indifferent about that too. *shrugs*

[orphan]

ughh.. post the text. re describing it you leave out subtleties.

[irexxana]

Text continuation after he invites me to a show for Wednesday.
Him: holy moly slept for 4 hours. Lol
Me: haha. But you feel better right? Naps are the best.
Him: haha sore. Going to gym. How was your day.
Me: it was great.. Blah blah. yours?
Him: tiring. Don't like being up early. Do you like waking up early? There's a breakfast place that has good reviews that opens at 7am.
Me: no I hate waking up early. Oh that has more reviews than the last place we went to. What's it called?
Him: I also want to try out a buffet. I don't know I forgot. I want to try all the places here.
Me: I'll search it
Him: ya if you can wake up early let's go.
Me: how early?
Him: 7am --
Me: you should try some local spots. Look up this place on Yelp.
Him: OMG looks so good.
Me: yes it's amazing
--- stops

[irexxana]

Other time he asked me to come to his hotel to play pool. I said I sucked at it but I guess. He never replied after I said yes I'd go to him.

[orphan]

i don't think he's really interested in you.

kind of uses you as an ego boost... everytime he subtly asks you out and you agree his XP goes up. he says to himself "i got her whenever i want her"

hence : 7am

not one gripe on your part.

[orphan]

start saying no.

[irexxana]

Yeah but in my text I don't really say I would go. XP
I kinda change the subject and talk about something else. Yeah I'm sure he used me as an ego boost. He mentioned once that his ego went up when some guys complimented his looks. I'm too nice to say no though. Should I just delete his number?

[orphan]

you may not be explicitly stating where when and what time.. you're amenable with him. you intended to go based on : "He stops texting before we can finalize"

if you dont like the way he's treating you... you're free to do whatever you see fit.

[irexxana]

I just lied and told him I'm going out of town. Because he changed plans again and pushed them back. So I'm pretty sure he's hanging out with others and keeping me as a backup. Why? I don't know. I just want to hang out.. Not like I want to marry him. Meh whatever. People are weird these days.

[orphan]

what the... how'd all that occur if ur "letting him fish" w/ his buddie

[irexxana]

Form of expression to say that I wasn't looking to date him...

[irexxana]

I told him that because I'm going out of town because he keeps changing his plans and pushing back on hanging out with me. So I figured I'll help him out. He just replied lol with an emoji when I told him it was nice to meet him and have a safe trip back.

[orphan]

i don't think this is the end of it.
=P

[irexxana]

huh? It is? I didn't respond to him.. He had the last word and it was just "lol"
Which was whack but whatever. Anyways thanks for reading my posts.

[orphan]

now'd be a good time to block him silently (since he got the last word)