This guy is giving me so many mixed signals for years. He blatantly stares at me on purpose after finding out about my obsessive crush on him through a friend and would turn away disappointedly when I don’t look back at him. He and his friends would keep an eye on me to see if I look at him. Once he turned around to stare at me, then stood up and stared at his friend as if he wanted to approach me. He would listen to my conversations with others and stalk my friends on social media.
A year later I found his number in a WhatsApp group and messaged him to ask him about his studies. He read all my messages immediately and replied very friendly until I asked if he wanted to talk to me because of his staring. From then on he was a bit rude and denied everything. I implied that I liked him by admitting that I too stared at him quite a bit. When I asked him why he didn’t approach me he answered „ah I don't know, I guess I was never that interested.“ I ended the conversation and he never texted me back.
Does he like me or not? If he likes me, why is he being so standoffish? And if he doesn’t like me, why is he so desperately trying to catch me looking at him and teasing me with his prolonged stares?
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Hopefully what I say doesn’t make you feel embarrassed but he’s just not that into you, at this point it’s not only entertainment but a big ego boost. He knows you have this shameless, obsessive crush, if he’s ever feeling unattractive or insecure all he has to do is glance over to catch you staring. Of course this is just my take and not confirm fact but regardless It’s horrible, and I would stop if I were you.
Sorry but then to say you don’t know if he likes you, didn’t you write that he told you he isn’t interested as well? Why the confusion?
Because he used to like me years ago, gets frustrated when I don’t pay attention, tried to approach me once and his friends stare at me too
Also He kept doing this for a year despite me ignoring him and he made a playlist about me
I understand that once upon a time he was interested, made you a playlist and all that other stuff but none of it matters anymore. Why? Because since then he has factually told you he is NOT interested. I don't know if you just don’t have other options in men or what but this guy isn’t available. To keep acting like he he lied or something is just beyond obsessive, it’s absurd.
I’m telling you this because I know know it’s billing but clearly you do not have people in your circle being honest. Either that or they don’t know how deep of a crush you have on this guy.
**blatant not billing
Yes i don’t have any other options in men like you do since I’m ugly. Is that what you want to hear?
Also the playlist was quite recent
Of course I don’t want to hear that, you shouldn’t even be saying it. As for the playlist, even that doesn’t matter if ultimately he told you he isn’t interested.
Why would he make a playlist if he want interested at all? That’s super weird
Well, he felt differently when he made that playlist, and he doesn’t feel that anymore. He said: “Ah I don’t know, I guess I was never that interested”, to me that’s him telling you that even if at one point he thought he was interested, ultimately he actually isn’t. I don’t think it’s weird to lose interest, I’m sure at one point in your life you had a crush you outgrew or changed your mind about.
Actually no, I still have a thing for all my crushes. And even if I lost feelings completely I would never pretend I never had any
You don’t find it weird to be crushing on men in your 20s that you wanted In your teens and child years? I’m sorry but I call bullshit lol THAT is weird.
What do you mean you wouldn’t pretend you never had any? He’s not pretending he’s just saying he was once interested and isn’t any more. You want to obsess and lament over pointless crushes, when he’s just trying to move on.
No he said he was never interested
I should be clearer I guess. You wrote he said he was never “that” interested. So to me, even if he didn’t use the word once, this implies that he was once interested but wasn’t any more.
Like no matter the case or how he worded it, his feelings are past-tense. So again, where his lie? Is it really that shocking for someone to lose interest or are you just in denial because you like him so obsessively?
You can't 'act standoffish' over text or messaging. That is all based on your perception.
So when I tell him I didn’t approach him due to shyness and he replies „classic“ and when I ask him why he didn’t approach me despite the staring and he says „ah I don't know guess I was never that interested“ how would you describe that behaviour if not with standoffish?
Standoffish is not interacting at all. He told you exactly what he thought.
Why does he act so confusing then?
He's not. You think him staring at you has all this deep meaning and it doesn't.
Maybe if you would have shown interest instead of doing nothing things would be different.
Every time I showed interest he would tell me I’m not his type and then go on to talk about me to his friends, blatantly stare, secretly glance or make playlists
he doesn't like u n he is pretty weird
How is he weird?