He turned off read receipts and put his phone to silent. Is he ghosting me?

[Anonymous]

I sent him a few messages, he was online ( obviously reading my texts), but with read receipts off.

I got extremely anxious and called him. He didn't answer his phone, has put it on silent.

I sent him a message again to beg him to call... no answer whatsoever.

Do you think he ghosted me?

[Oliverlogan263]

Ugh girl that sounds super sketchy. Turning off read receipts and not answering your texts or calls is definitely raising some red flags.

When a guy starts being all weird and distant like that out of nowhere, it usually means he's lost interest but doesn't have the balls to just tell you straight up. Going silent and avoiding you is an immature way to ghost someone instead of having an honest conversation.

I'd say at this point you pretty much have your answer - he's clearly checked out of talking to you. As hard as it is, I think you just need to accept that he's not gonna respond and move on. Don't keep double texting him or leaving pathetic voicemails, that'll just make you look desperate. You gotta play it cool and act like you don't even care.

If he does eventually hit you up trying to make excuses, don't let him off the hook so easily. Call him out for ghosting and make him explain himself before you decide if you even wanna deal with him again. But honestly he doesn't really sound worth the drama. You could do better than a guy who treats you like that. Keep your head up!

[spartan55]

Who is he?

[Asker]

The guy I'm dating for the last year

[spartan55]

Okay, you didn't say and it matters. Some other details you left out: why are you 'begging' him to call you? Did you have an argument? Something else going on? Why are you hitting the panic button about him ignoring you? Did he ask for some space?

[Asker]

He didn't ask for space... he said "you are going to be punished until you learn how to not be so annoying" ... Him punishing me made me want to message him even more... which isn't making it better obviously

[spartan55]

Sounds like a very unhealthy relationship? Punish you? If any woman ever said that to me she would get immediately dumped. Why don't you respect yourself enough to not tolerate that type of treatment?

[Asker]

Because he knows I'm not leaving no matter what... and looks like I'm a masochist. I wish my relationship was healthier. Why do you think he is not blocking me? He now read all messages but still chooses to nor reach out.

[spartan55]

It doesn't matter, this is how your relationship will be unless you get out.