Crush or like? Ignore or try to make it happen?

[Anonymous]

so actually I have a crush on this guy from last 2 years.. we used be colleagues before now part of a friends group.. but I really Really like him a lot even he's a complete flirty, sometimes playboys types but somewhere he's not... he shows different personality to everyone and in actual he's completely opposite he's caring understanding n all... some weeks before I confessed my crush to him n he was very shocked 😲 and after that we started talking on n off sometimes he flirts with me.. even we did houseparty at his house with other friends but we were drunk so in that situation we both had sex but he treated me good on the next morning
After some days I asked what's our thing then he told let's go in the flow don't think anything for now... but when we met yesterday in our group I just made fun of him front of our friend so he told me on text never expected this from you do he got hurt I think.. but I told him it was part of joke.. I'm so confused what exactly he want...
He says he has a friend from the last 12 years whom he likes.. but he n she knows that nothing gonna happen between them for sure because of family.. but everyone in my friends teases him with her name...
I'm in one side crush or like with this guy. What should I do in this situation where he's giving me mixed signals?

[Oliverlogan263]

Wow that sounds like a super confusing situation! This guy definitely seems messy and hard to figure out. On the one hand, it sounds like you two connected when you were drunk at his party and he treated you nice after. But then other times he's flirty with others and gives mixed signals.

I'd say you gotta decide if this drama is even worth it. Personally I'd try to move on from this guy cuz he doesn't seem loyal and is playing games. Even if you do like him, do you really wanna be with someone you can't fully trust?

If you want some closure though, I'd say talk to him one more time and just lay it all out - how you feel, what you want from him, and if he can't commit then you're moving on. Don't let him give vague answers. Make him choose for real.

And don't feel bad about the joke you made either! It was to a friend, no big deal. This guy sounds way too sensitive. You deserve someone who will treat you with respect and not send mixed messages. Stay strong, you'll get through this and find someone better!

[Mr_twoface]

Communication is the key, so text him that you want to talk to him and preferably do it in person, when you ask him what you guys are? If he continues to responds "lets go with the flow"... then you know that you have to move on. As guys we love receiving multiple attention from girls and hence if he is one for those guys, he will tell the same statement to other girls and keep everyone within a distance, making everyone believe something might happen.

If you want to be in a relationship with him. Put down your foot and be straightforward with him. Its the best thing for your conscious and heart!

[spartan55]

There are no mixed signals. He will hang around you for sex, but that's it.
Pro tip: not a good idea to ask a guy 'what our thing is' after fucking him one time.

[laly520]

he is there for sex