Why do people keep feeding other people the ‘I just got a lot going on right now, sorry?

[Anonymous]

Why not just be honest, I have no problem backing off, just say it. Don’t use a stupid line. One of the reasons why I do not like people in general. And another reasons why I keep my friend circle small and I hate meeting new guys.

[Taniisokay]

Guys or people in general? Either way I feel you.

[Asker]

Guys, I had to look it up.. because no guy had ever fed me that line until yesterday. And there I was being empathetic with him and understanding, think he is actually got a lot going on. It’s whatever though, I am done meeting new guys. Celibate now to

[sheikalana]

It might be something personal and they do not wish to disclose what it is.

[Asker]

I understand that, but if you aren’t interested in me in anymore, just say it…don’t feed me a line.. I ain’t never heard… I had to look it up…and it said that men say when they don’t want to deal with people anymore. He could have said that this past Thursday, I would have backed off…plus I wasn’t even texting him all the time.

[sheikalana]

It's easier for them to say that because they don't want to close that door permanently. They want to leave the door half open for when they decide to come back. But you're a smart woman if someone said that to you proceed to block and delete.

[Asker]

What’s the point of keeping it open.. I don’t nothing to that man. I hate texting as it is…I preferred talking in person. His mood changed. The last guy I was messing with mood changed because he thought I ghosted him and he had a shitty phone, and then met someone else because he thought I didn’t want him. I got bad luck, and I just over meeting new guys…I am backing away from all men. And to be honest I wasn’t really looking when I started talking to the current guy…I was just talking to people on hinge, I had no expectations and neither did he. I felt like we guilted some type of bond, I guess not. I don’t know what to believe, I just don’t trust anyone.

[sheikalana]

Sometimes is just best to take a break from the dating scene for a while.

[Asker]

This is the last message I wrote: I am saying this with the upmost respect for you. But that line you feed me yesterday is what people say when they aren’t interested in a person anymore. You could have just been honest, I would have been backed off. This is why communication is important in life period.

[sheikalana]

I wouldn't even bother to text him again.

[Asker]

I’m not. And I am done with white men

[sheikalana]

You go girl!

[spartan55]

@asker
You say that 'you understand' if it was something personal with him that he didn't want to disclose, but you don't. If it was something personal, then it doesn't necessarily mean he lost interest, and likely has nothing to do with you.
Clearly you have some issues that are disrupting your love life. And it seems you're a racist too, lovely.

[Asker]

@spartan55 how is it racist because I said that I was done with dating white men? I am not obligated as a black woman to date another white man.

[Asker]

I blocked him anyways so it don’t even matter.

[spartan55]

Wow, you are a real delight. Where did I say you were obligated to date anyone? You seem to think if you don't date a certain race then your problems will go away. But you're right, you aren't racist. 😂😂 You aren't very smart either.
Here's a Pro Tip about guys that I'm sure you will ignore: don't assume you know what guys are thinking and feeling, and then act like it's a fact. We really hate when women do this.
You want to blame him, blame white guys, blame it on me, blame it on your luck. It's never your fault, right? Couldn't have anything to do with your shit attitude, right?

[Asker]

@Spartan55 I didn’t have a shit attitude, you know nothing about me. All you have seen is what’s written. Why do you care anyways? And I am very smart, smarter than you think. I have two degrees dude…one in early childhood education and information technology sweetie. And I never said I knew what a man was thinking. And frankly, I don’t give a damn

[Asker]

@Spartan55 I don’t know and don’t care to get to know you, so why the heck would I blame you?
I have been dating white guys half of my life since I was 14 years old…that’s along damn. I was always nice to the ones I dated. My fault? Boy bye…most of them were still hung up on their exes, had a baby on the way, their exes were contacting them, they lying about not having a child (ren), lying about not having a whole girlfriend, mood swings, had bad attitudes, felons, cheater, manwhores.

My ex from five years ago said I was the best girlfriend he ever had. The only reason we ended it was he actually had a lot going on at the time…lost his job…we stayed in contact…friends right now. I am friends with mostly all my exes.. so who fault is what?

I am not a bad person, I have a good heart…they see a pretty face, and I speak l, they are wowed.

I had my match, and he told me, I brought joy into his life, I made him happy…. everytime we spent time was the best time of his life…I miss him so much…he died on 2022 and it was very traumatic for me. When he died I gave up…and then I met someone in November last year, it didn’t work out due to miscommunication and misunderstandings, he thought I ghosted him.