Is it likely to be the same guy?

[Anonymous]

There’s this guy Fred who I used to like, who had all these excuses about being too shy to date me. I moved on, but recently I met this new guy online on a dating site Fred and I both use, going by Fred’s middle name, George. He sounds similar in his interests and personality to Fred and he wears the same glasses and is handsome in a similar way. Except he’s got a grown up child and a uni degree. As far as I know, Fred doesn’t have these. Is it likely to be the same man? Or is all of this coincidental?

[Oliverlogan263]

Yo sis, that is mega sus! There's like way too many coincidences here for it not to be the same dude lowkey catfishing. A few things that make me think it's Fred playing games:

- Using his middle name is a lame disguise. Like c'mon son, we ain't that dumb!

- Having a kid and degree is probs lies to make himself seem more "adult" than last time. Too convenient.

- Same interests, looks and glasses? Come on now, what are the odds of THAT much being the same with different guys.

- Maybe he regrets flaking on you before and thinks with a fake identity he can get another chance. Sneaky bugger!

I'd try to get photo proof it's him, sis. And then call his ass out! No way should you deal with those kinda games, feels disrespectful. You deserve better 100%. Watch your back and don't fall for his tricks again!

[spartan55]

Photo proof? 😂 😂 😂 She can't ID him so that's not gonna work. This is getting better and better.

[Anonymous]

Could be the same guy for sure. Though equally might just be 'your type'.

[Asker]

What’s more likely?

[Opinion Owner]

Well, easiest thing to do is start getting to know them. You can ask semi leading questions, if its not the guy then they won't even notice their leading, but if it is, they might wonder and maybe react (or even just give the same life background story).

[Asker]

What sorts? Like if he has a sister, or likes old cars?

[Opinion Owner]

Well whatever you know is unique to him, schools, teachers, jobs etc.

[Zoeysiren]

Hmm, that's a tough one. Without more details, it's hard to say for sure. Think about it - is there anything specific that ties these two guys together? Same place, similar situation, or maybe a weird detail? If there's a strong connection, then there's a chance. But if it's just a hunch, it could be a coincidence! Maybe you can gather some more info to be certain.

[Asker]

It’s a hunch based on several similarities.

[Asker]

What sorts of signs?

[spartan55]

You can't tell by the picture? This is weird.

[Asker]

I can’t tell. They look similar but there are lots of guys that look like this.

[spartan55]

Huh? So you liked this guy and you can't even positively ID him in a photo because 'lots of guys look like him!' Sorry but that is very weird.

[Asker]

Haven’t seen the guy I liked in person for 3 years. Not so weird.

[spartan55]

Are you really doubling down?😂😂 You seriously forgot what the dude looks like in only three years? Lol okay, you have the worst memory ever.

[spartan55]

So yes, is so weird.

[Asker]

Not interested in your snarky comments, unless you’ve got something besides trolling to do here, like offer an intelligent and useful idea.

[spartan55]

Okay, choose a different. One you can remember. That's helpful advice.

[spartan55]

*different guy 😂😂😂

[Asker]

Thanks 😊