What was the point of meeting just for him to say that… is that a low blow rejection?
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When a man says he’s not ready for a relationship because he’s not where he wants to be career wise… is that a lie?
From my own experience it was a lie, ( it has an experience ) but it can be both. Sometimes guys use the ''not being ready'' as an excuse just to avoid having any kind of commitements but would do anything to have you around them. The guy would send you the most mixed signals ever so you would emotionally or even physically give in. At the end when you'll ask them what are we, they would say ''why would you ask that'' or ''we're good like this''. Really be careful because I wouldn't wish anyone to go through it. I was stuck in a fucking situationship for over 5 months for the asshole to tell me ''I'm not ready to date'', but would literally take me on dates, plan night outs, make me feel special. It's really emotioanlly draining and it actually has an explanation. Talking stage is a fucking SCAM with guys like those. They are making you feel special, they are making sure you would get used to a certain type of behaviour so at the end it would be hard on you not to give in or invest emotionally. WHY? Because it's a win for them, knowing you have control over someone is so damn satisfying right? But if they were to commit they won't do that anymore. That's the whole point in my humble opinion.
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No. Guys tend to be conditioned to “be the man” which means rather a lot, including being able to take care of himself and provide for his family. (Yeah, even today when most women work.) Additionally, the truth is that if a person (male or female) is just starting out on their career path they really aren’t ready for a serious thing because work has to be a priority so they can establish a good professional reputation. (A lot of relationships break up at that point in a person’s professional life.)
When the time is right and your calm, open and ready to receive the grace of a loving and real relationship then it makes more sense to go look for your person.
It could be. It might not be. Some people, especially men in my opinion would rather be established to be able to take care of a girl. I think if I had waited to get into my first relationship till I was established, it might have worked out. Now that I’m older I think I should have be more stable, an actual place for us to live, finances taken care of, etc. Especially if you plan on getting married and having children.
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I would say yes, if you are concentrating on work and your career, then you don’t go looking for girls, it’s a fairly simple thing. With dating you do need to fit it in around your work and other commitments (some of those you may change). It sounds like he just rejected you for whatever reason but tried to flower it up, which makes it sound weird.
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Yes. When people are truly interested, they don't say stuff like that. Personally I would take that as a rejection, but that is just me.
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Did he say that to you after the first time her met you in person? Did you meet him off the internet? If so , than it’s just an excuse , he probably wasn’t attracted to you and didn’t want to hurt your feelings or Mislead you the wrong cuz why would he ask you on a date if he was t interested in you in the first place?
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If he’s not ready for a relationship, why he even setting up dates or chatting up females? Sounds like an excuse to me… I’m not where I want to be physically, emotionally, financially, but then I’m not flirting with men or talking to multiple men online/dating apps, etc. Some men these days don’t want to put in the effort of a relationship but want the benefits… stay clear of those guys
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It's a cop out. Did men say this in the great depression? Is money a prerequisite for love? Does money physically stop your feelings?
No, it's a cheap cop out for any actual meaningful connection and he likely was hoping for meaningless sex
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If he found someone he liked more than you, bet he'd be ready. It means he may like you, but he doesn't like you enough.
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Maybe not a lie, but it's definitely a cop-out. He's rejecting you, but you might not be the problem, if that makes any sense.
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Sometimes it is. Sometimes it's the truth. But ultimately he's rejecting your love offer
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No not really. Women and dating are expense hobbies for men.
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he isn't ready for a relationship or ready but not willing to date the girl he said that to
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Not necessarily. Most people (men and women) want to focus on their career and/or reach a certain point in their career before getting into a relationship.
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Yes, I reckon it is.
He simply doesn't like you or he doesn't find you Attractive anymore.
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It's definitely rejection but not necessarily a lie.
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When I say this I mean it. I am a grad student and I can't fulfil monetary expectation from women so I know it will not work out. Pretty soon they will want guys that can provide better as it happened before
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He's just not into you.
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It’s a rejection. Sorry
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Means exactly what he said
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No. Not at all and I respect that.
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He's not that into you.
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It's a lie
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Probably not
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