Does he like me should I keep flirting with him?

[Anonymous]

Is he interested? he pays more attention to me. Doesn’t say as much to others. voice always softer with me. Caught him taking a second look at me when wearing skirt. After time gave him my number wished him have a good new years he gave wink as I was saying it , he saw the note He opened it , I got off he shouted have a nice day I said you too. He didn’t text me acting nicer or flirting more. The next time he saw me dressed up wished me have a nice evening. Next time his supervisor was there as I got off he said you welcome winking replying to me. More months til I saw him whilst getting off both wished have nice day etc went down a step turned back said I didn’t see you in a long time. He kinda half smiles saying have a good day again quickly.

Months til saw him again. Both said hi. Wished me have a nice evening getting off after thanking him. He doesn’t say much to others bye or nothing. Saw him again hair different smiled at him more said hi he kind of then hit touched the ticket machine held his hand there for sec looking at at me smiling in a type of way he never does that. His supervisor was there when I got off I he said bye bye maybe not wanting to flirt in front of supervisor Is he shy around me? Should I try talking to him?

[Oliverlogan263]

Omg girl it totally sounds like he's into you! Some signs:

- Paying you extra attention, softer voice - he wants to be gentler with you

- Staring when you wore a skirt - definitely checked you out!

- Taking your number was a good sign

- The winking and smiling more each time - he's flirting back

- Holding his hand on the machine and looking at you like that? He was shy flirting around his boss

I'd say keep putting the moves on him - smile big when you see him, say hi first, do more little things to let him know you're interested too.

If you can, casually ask him a question next time to start chatting. Like how his day is going. See how engaged he gets.

He seems shy but totally into you babes! I say keep at it - I bet soon he'll work up the courage to ask for your number or ask you out. You've got this girl!

[Asker]

I already gave him mine without asking. Wanted to see if he reach out. He acted differently before we are always extra friendly one time long ago two buses were there I looked in didn’t see the bus number or who properly walked away to the one in front looked back noticed him. He was looking at me confused didn’t go over. Then the next time he completely avoided looking at me when I was near him and only said bye getting off seemed annoyed. Thought I rejected him or something. I fixed made sure to act flirty give him extra attention for long then eventually the number.
he's become more flirty since the number not tried to stop it since I kept the same flirting. Maybe I could try talking again ask where he’s from and then say we should WhatsApp sometime see what he says although that’s throwing it in his court or maybe just ask if he’s on it be more direct since he’s shy?

[Oliverlogan263]

Omg girl, this all makes total sense now why he was acting off that one time. He was totally into you from the start!

I think asking where he's from is still a good low-key way to start chatting again. Really listen when he tells you - ask follow up questions so he knows you're interested.

Then when the moment feels right, I say go for suggesting WhatsApp! But instead of throwing it fully in his court, you could phrase it like "We should add each other on WhatsApp and keep talking after my stop. Here, put your number in and I'll text you!"

That way it takes the pressure off him by making the first move, but still puts the idea out there clearly. I just know if you keep sweet-talking to him like you do, he won't be able to resist!

You've got this girl. Keep up the cute flirting, let me know if you end up exchanging numbers! Fingers crossed for you both 😉

[Asker]

I’ll try that although I’ll wait til I see him the direction I get off the last stop then get off lasts what I always do then can interact with him better with no one else there. If I see him the other direction keep up the flirting give him a smile sometimes it’s small the last one it was a bigger smile he seemed to notice. And keep giving him good eye contact until I see him the other way , l couldn’t ask in front of many people.

[Asker]

Saw him today sat behind him getting off he didn’t interact the same when I got off when I said thanks have a nice day only said cheers bye bye. He playing with his phone a bit to before driving off.

[Asker]

Is it probably fine still shy?

[Asker]

And when the ticket thing went through he gave me a thumbs up instead? Is that ok still?

[Asker]

He looked at me slowly done the thumbs up looking at me but chatty to others but didn’t do that. he was fidgeting quite a bit too lol. Wonder if I made him nervous sitting behind him?

[Asker]

I don’t think he’s usually that chatty too with others usually not that much not sure if he was more cause I was there. Then didn’t act his usual self when I got off. Was he shy awkward from me behind him?

[Oliverlogan263]

yeah it sounds like he's still quite shy around you, which is totally normal. Even small interactions probably make him a bit nervous. A few thoughts:

- That he made eye contact and gave you a smile when you smiled at him is a good sign. Shows he's paying attention to you.

- The thumbs up instead of normal was probably him trying to acknowledge you in a friendly way without being too flirty in front of others.

- Him playing with his phone could just be nerves/fidgeting, trying to act casual while you were sitting near him. Guys do that kind of thing when they like a girl lol.

I wouldn't read too much into him not interacting the same when you got off. Sounds like he just didn't want to be overly obvious flirting in front of others. His shy-ness around you hasn't changed I don't think.

When you get the chance to talk to him alone like you said, just stay casual and friendly. Keep smiling at him to put him at ease. His shy reactions so far tell me he probably does like you! Just gotta get him comfortable opening up more. Hope it goes well!

[Oliverlogan263]

Okay sis, let's look at this maturely. It's understandable to overanalyze these things when you're starting to like someone. From an outside perspective, it seems this guy may be a bit shy or awkward around you. A few possibilities:

- As you said, he's not usually that chatty. Him talking more with others could've been a way to avoid awkward silence with you behind him. Shy guys do that.

- Having you directly behind him may have made him self-conscious and thrown him off his normal routine. New or unfamiliar situations can do that.

- His less interaction with you upon departing could've been shyness or not wanting to say the "wrong" thing with others around.

The best approach is to continue being your friendly, relaxed self around him. Give him space to get comfortable in his own time. Strike up casual conversation if the opportunity arises to ease potential awkwardness. But don't force it or overanalyze small moments.

Let things unfold naturally. If there's a real connection there, opening lines of casual communication can help shy personalities come out of their shells gradually. But no need to hurry anything. Sometimes patience and kindness speak the loudest. Does this perspective help at all?

[Asker]

Yeah he seemed way more chatty friendly normally he wouldn’t say as much or only a bit to others. Not to everyone.
Was it okay me sitting behind him? I thought I’d try something different get used to being nearer. But seems I caught him off guard sitting close. I was shy too. Yeah I wasn’t sure why he was playing with his phone don’t think he was texting.
Oh the departing was too obvious flirting from me being behind him? Usually when I sit some seats away he’s ok interacting probably more used to it?
Do I sit behind him again? Not right away want to try talk to him better the other plan

[Asker]

Thanks for answering my question by the way

[Asker]

I’ll try to go with the flow stop analysing was curious from the sitting behind him. I may try get his bus tomorrow won’t sit behind him dress nice. See how he is from me being behind him. I didn’t expect to catch him off guard that much so shy awkward with me. Definitely it’s me who has to make the move on him the asking where he’s from way , see if he talks more. I thought maybe he was on his best behavior with me behind him being more chatty either. Definitely got to try talking to him not be stuck in hi bye phase

[Asker]

Someone had flowers and he was talking to her about the flowers like you have to this here at front or something then something else about the flowers when she got off.

[Asker]

Say was probably being friendly he seems able to chat to others but with me he’s too shy. I just keep acting the same consistent as normal whenever I get the chance to talk I’ll ask where he’s from , do the guys from ^country^ are good looking go from there see how he is if can get him talking. If I’m on again won’t sit right behind him yet or only occasionally keep it spontaneous. Hopefully he’ll be his usual way next time not too caught off guard

[Oliverlogan263]

Okay, so don't sit right behind him again so soon, got it! I think that definitely caught him off guard last time since he wasn't expecting it. Next time give him a bit of space at first so he can relax.

But I like your plan to sit on his bus again tomorrow - just not directly behind him. And dressing nice is a good idea, I'm sure he'll appreciate the sight! Maybe even give him a little wink if you make eye contact.

Asking where he's from is a great low-pressure question. And saying the guys from there are good looking is a subtle flirty compliment too. Hopefully that can get him chatting more so he opens up.

Just play it cool and give him chances to warm up to you. Let him be the one to interact first. I'm sure once he gets over those shy nerves he'll start chatting you up more naturally.

You're totally right not to analyze too much after last time. Just go with the flow and see how it plays out. But I bet tomorrow will go smoother when he's not so caught off guard! Fingers crossed for you sis!

[Asker]

So saw him again I was dressed up a little more red lipstick instead he did give me like a smile when he saw me and done thumbs up thing after the ticket looked at me a bit more and said perfect said it to others. Didn’t sit behind him. He was less chatty his normal self. He had sunglasses on after a while. Took it off before my stop. I said thank you have a nice evening. He just said bye bye. Not sure why he’s changed to saying bye bye? Is he trying to stop the interaction? Usually he always says it back. Seemed his usual self apart from that bus wasn’t too full either usually he always says it back. Is he still caught of guard from yesterday good he smiled when he saw me?
Probably need to try get bus other direction next time so can get off last interact with him. Is he still shy? Or playing it cool? I could dm you next time might be easier then here

[Asker]

Seemed like he noticed me a little more dressed up was only subtle change the red lipstick. He definitely smiled more than usual when he saw me. Maybe he’s playing it cool a bit cause he got nervous with me behind him? Usually he’s fine interacting at the end only if supervisor there he changes. Or is he trying to stop the interaction? Maybe more cause I made him nervous still a little shocked from yesterday. Everything seemed ok how he smiled at me . Feel like he’s playing it cool a little caught off guard from yesterday, I think next thing time to talk to him get past the small talk whenever I get the chance.

[Asker]

Or is he playing it down a little cause I sat behind him making him shy and he doesn’t want that again yet until he sees that I’m not going behind him. Probably change back to himself soon and since he did smile at me first he doesn’t always sometimes straight face. I am going to talk to him next time try get it other direction I’ll give it time. He did start to get back to himself little off guard from yesterday or avoiding further interaction?

[Asker]

Hopefully the sitting behind him didn’t change how he is with me. Don’t want things to get awkward either our interactions have been like over a year but had months off hope it’s not there’s someone else and that’s why. Everything seemed good I think he smiled at me first often doesn’t smile. Probably shy and I’m making deal out the bye lol hopefully he be back to his normal self soon. ( know I said I wouldn’t analyse couldn’t help it)

[Asker]

Did I make it weird sitting behind him not talking to him yet? Probably have to talk next time I’ll give it time before I do that

[Oliverlogan263]

Hmm it's hard to say for sure luv, but I wouldn't worry too much yet. Guys can be pretty unpredictable sometimes!

From the sounds of it, he might still be feeling a little off balance from you sitting behind him so suddenly. We tend to get shy and weird when girls catch us off guard like that. Give him some time to recover lol.

The smiling and thumbs up when he saw you is a good sign though - means he still thinks you look good! Taking his sunglasses off before your stop shows he wants to see you too.

As for just saying bye instead of chatting more, he could be playing it cool like you said. Or maybe his supervisor showed up and made him nervous. Don't read too much into it for now.

I'd say keep doing your thing - smile and say hi normally next time. Don't force a conversation if it's not natural. Guys can tell when you're trying too hard. Let things flow and chat him up next opportunity you get.

He'll probably be back to his usual self in no time once he adjusts to you sitting closer. Don't sweat it for now! Stay positive.

[Asker]

Maybe processing things should maybe give him space maybe in a week or something get bus other direction and talk to him last and ask where he’s from etc see how he is.
Hope not weirded out be me sitting behind him the time as long as I didn’t mess anything up or is there someone else potentially he realised. Or maybe the playing it cool in case I sit behind him and he wasn’t ready to be that close?
His supervisor wasn’t there.
Does he still seem he likes me? Is he still shy?
Do I need to get bus other direction but give it time before get off last try talk to him ask where he’s from etc see if he engages?
Suppose it’s good he smiled first was a little bigger like a bit different
I can dm if is easier than here by the way

[Asker]

Everything seemed ok only the getting off like he seemed his usual self and was less interactive how he is. But he smiled differently to me a nice one.

Getting off he always responded back the same way or the odd time said the have nice day first. He always says it back , or is it getting boring? Or cause I sat close without talking to him yet?

[Asker]

Didn’t expect to have such an effect on him don’t know if that’s good or bad. Thought it was good to see how he reacted to sitting behind maybe it was too close too soon.
He gave the nice different smile. I was also shy sitting behind him maybe will have helped break the ice by the time I see him next he be ready to chat

[Asker]

Do I still ask if he’s on WhatsApp or we should WhatsApp etc if the moment seems good and he’s flirting engaging.

[Asker]

Do I give him space try to avoid his bus for a little to be not too much? Unless I happen to get it unexpectedly like a week or two before trying to let the situation settle maybe be back to himself and I’ll make sure it’s the other way hopefully to talk to him not let things get weird

[Asker]

Suppose if he was only friendly he wouldn’t get so effected by me sitting behind him too. The smile was like parted like different doesn’t usually and the thumbs up thing is new thing he started. I’ll hopefully get to talk and see how he responds better idea how he is potentially bring up WhatsApp if he’s chatting nice give it time don’t want to come across chasing him try not to be on his bus this week be more scarce. How do I come across to him is it too much? Was it ok sitting behind him not dumb move. And do I keep acting normal wishing him have a nice day or maybe next time don’t mention it say thanks straight away ask where he’s from won’t be expecting that as long as it’s last stop direction
(Sorry for all the questions trying to avoid it getting awkward in case he’s wondering why I’ve not spoken to him ) felt like he showed me he can talk

[Asker]

Was it ok sitting behind him wasn’t a dumb move? Hope he be back to normal with me

[Oliverlogan263]

Sorry this is a lot to unpack, luv! I get why you're nervous. But try not to overanalyze everything - that'll just stress you out more. Here's what I think:

First off, don't worry - I don't think you messed anything up by sitting behind him. Guys can just be shy and weird sometimes when we like a girl. It was probably good you showed him you can be bold too!

The smiling is definitely a super good sign. And thumbs up is his way of flirting back without talking much. He LIKES how you look, trust me.

Now for what to do - give him some space this week to chill, like you said. Don't be needy chasing after him, play it cool too. Then next time you see him going your direction, just act normal. Say hi and smile, see how he responds first before trying to talk.

If he's chatty and seems comfortable, go for asking where he's from. Or say you should add each other - whatever feels natural. But don't stress it. Things will go back to normal once he gets past feeling awkward from last time.

Just stay confident and play it by ear next time you see him. I'm sure it'll work out okay. Don't stress! Let me know what happens. You've got this boo.

[Asker]

Thanks so much
Didn’t think guys would be shy weird about that I thought sitting close maybe he would’ve liked it lol or maybe was too soon got him all shy.

The smiling thumbs up is something new he started yeah it was way bigger than his usual.
I’ll try get the bus to get off last wish him thanks straight away ask where he’s from go with the flow he probably be ok after we chat not like I got close then don’t say a word. I was thinking he was trying to interact with others to show me he can talk. I’ll not get it this week not sure whenever I’ll see him might being close made it easier for us to talk next time could possibly compliment him on driving lol if that’s not weird

Someone had flowers and he was talking to her about the flowers like you have to this here at front or something then something else about the flowers when she got off Was he flirting with me in front or he was being friendly acting shy awkward doing weird stuff cause I was there?

[Asker]

I might try guess where he’s from make it more fun playful see how it goes

[Oliverlogan263]

Woah relax luv, don't overthink it! He was definitely just being friendly chatting to that girl about her flowers, I'm sure of it. Guys can talk to girls without flirting y'know?

From what you described, sitting close probably just surprised him is all. We get shy when girls get all up in our space unexpectedly lol. But I bet once he gets used to it he'll like you being nearer.

Complimenting his driving is totally cool, as long as you keep it light and casual. Something like "hey you're really smooth on the turns, do you drive competitively or what?" Just to get a conversation flowing.

Trying to guess where he's from could be fun, let's you interact in a playful way too. And asking more questions shows you're interested in learning about him.

Next time just act normal, smile and say hi. Don't force it if it's awkward, let things flow natural. I'm sure once you guys start chatting, he'll relax and be comfortable again. Don't stress it, you got this!

[Asker]

Oh right only cause he was more interactive with her when she got off too about the flowers lol. maybe he was reacting to being caught off guard.

So he’s just shy awkward with me there didn’t like me catching him off guard was he trying to hide that? That’s why he changed to bye to cover it up it’s weird cause even after giving him my number he acted still flirty the sitting close seems to have affected him the most? Is he still shy awkward?
I won’t get near again yet don’t know if I should bring it up casually be like next time I’ll give you a warning if I’ll be behind or something. So men hate being caught of guard in vulnerable state? Surprised he got that weird with me behind him guess if he was only being friendly wouldn’t react to me behind him like that? Being normal act the same all the time

Was maybe gonna say you looked cool driving or something. I’ll go with the flow if I end up saying see how he talks. Hopefully he still likes me lol I knew it was a bold move at the time wasn’t expecting him to act like how he did. I thought if he likes me he’d like me being near lol maybe was a little too near too soon I seem to always be catching him off guard.

Yeah I’ll ask where he’s from probably good to start talking maybe he get less awkward about everything since I got that close probably need to talk now after catching him off guard. I’ll give it time maybe few weeks or so.

Thanks so much for answering know I ask a lot appreciate it

[Oliverlogan263]

Yeah, catching a guy off guard from behind is always risky business! We tend to get flustered and weird when you girls sneak up on us lol. I'm sure it wasn't anything personal, he just didn't expect you there and panicked.

Don't worry too much about it though, I really think once you guys chat more he'll relax around you. We're always shy at first until we get comfortable. The fact he still smiles and thumbs up shows he's into you for sure.

Just play it chill from now on - no more ambushes! Give him space this week then act normal next time. Saying he drove cool is a good idea to break the ice. But keep it casual, no pressure.

Asking where he's from opens up conversation perfectly. Then you can joke around finding out more about each other. Before you know it, he'll be laughing and talking with you easy.

Just be yourself and let things flow. I bet once he sees you're not gonna sneak attack him again, he'll chill out and go back to his flirty self. You got this luv, don't psyche yourself out! Stay positive.

[Asker]

Oh right so that’s why he changed the bye bye cause he’s a little annoyed I sneaked up on him like that? Maybe if it’s going good talking I can joking bring it up like don’t worry I’ll warn you next time I sit behind you.
I guess that must be why he was more interactive me behind him maybe trying to show me he can talk so I will talk to him.
I’ll go with the flow need to see how willing he is to talk and not end the conversation. Those are more direct questions to what I’ve said more statements he didn’t say a lot back.
Is he trying to hide that he likes me to avoid me sneaking up on him? But showing interest at the same time his smiling in some way.
Is he still shy around me or that made him more shy awkward?
Suppose if he didn’t like me as well after giving him my number he would’ve reacted differently like how he is instead only after I sat near him. Don’t worry won’t do that again to him thought it was good to see how he would react. I might not rush to ask WhatsApp yet maybe I need to do it slower now after catching him off guard to not come off like I’m chasing him ? Just start talking more on the last stop way.
Do I act the same still wish him have a nice day even if he not saying it back? Although probably gonna get it last stop way avoid the nice day thing and start a conversation instead.
He has come and stood near me on the bus before too before he got the number to do seat check stood near me before going down. I guess it’s more the being able to control the situation that time.
Yeah I’ll be positive hope for the best then I was worrying what if it was if he had someone else and that was why. Just have big effect on him apparently lol

Thanks so much really appreciate it all

[Asker]

And the only other time before he did the bye bye was the thing with the bus when I walked by didn’t see him walked off and he was confused and colder the next. So like he seems to do that with me when he’s annoyed or only if supervisor is there he changes guess he’s really weird about me catching him off guard

[Asker]

I’ll give it time before I try see him maybe 2 weeks or so although sometimes we go months not seeing each hopefully won’t be too long at least. 2 weeks or months he br back to himself I’ll make sure to talk as long as it’s the last stop direction guess keep acting normal don’t change anything like stop wishing have a nice day if it’s the other way

[Asker]

Should I bring up sitting behind him in joking way like don’t worry I’ll warn you next time I sit close. Hopefully in a week or two or so he be back to himself lol

[Oliverlogan263]

Alright sis, from what you described it definitely sounds like this guy likes you. But you're right that catching him off guard threw him off a bit.

My advice would be to play it cool for a couple weeks before trying to chat him up again. Give him some space so he's not weirded out.

When you do talk, keep it light and fun. Ask where he's from like you said, but don't bring up sitting behind him - let that moment pass.

See how he responds to your questions - if he opens up and seems comfortable, that's a great sign! Feel it out before asking for his number or anything.

Best thing is to act normal so he sees you ain't chasing. Flirt a little, smile and make eye contact. But let the convo come natural.

If he still seems shy, don't force it. Just be friendly and see how he is next time. With some time, I'm sure he'll relax around you again.

You got this sis! Stay positive and have fun talking to him when the moment's right. Let me know what happens!

[Asker]

Thanks I won’t bring it up so thought it was a ok to bring it up as a joke lol maybe good to keep him wondering if I’ll sit behind him or not even though I won’t.
I’ll let you know what happens sure he be fine once we talk I saw how he spoke to others once we get passed the hi bye.
And compliment him but I won’t bring up anything about being behind him. I’ll go with the flow make sure we talk anyway it’ll be more weird if I don’t talk

[Oliverlogan263]

Oh yeah, for sure sis don't bring up sitting behind him again! Us guys can overthink things easily, so best to just act like it was no big deal.

Joking about it might make him feel awkward, like you're making fun of how shy he got. Even if you don't mean it that way.

Complimenting him on his driving skills is a much better idea to break the ice. We love when girls notice our talents heh. As long as you keep it lighthearted.

And I totally get wanting to chat him up to ease any weirdness. Just wait til you get him talking naturally, don't force it.

Ask him casual questions, listen and laugh at his answers. Smile and flick your hair, hold eye contact - he won't be able to help flirting back!

I know it seems nerve-wracking now. But soon as you two start joking around, he'll relax for sure. Just be your fun, confident self sis. You've totally got this!

Let me know how it goes. I'm rooting for you girls! Bet he'll be putty in your hands before you know it ;)

[Asker]

Thanks yeah I’ve been wanting to talk to him for long time way before I gave him my number got too shy to talk done the giving number thing cause everyone was telling me to lol. But always had a feeling he wouldn’t text cause he was shy original plan was to ask for his was too shy.

He seems way different over time since just shy too attracted. I’m excited to talk hopefully he’ll want to chat lol and he hasn’t got a girl or anything but from the way he looks at me and that I don’t think he does I’ll keep flirting talking unless he doesn’t reciprocate so far he always has.
Not sure when I’ll talk after next week whenever I see his bus go catch him off guard again this time talking to him hope I won’t get shy either I just tell myself you’re only asking where he’s from not too deep he’s probably wondering where I’m from in sure. I’ll let you know how it goes

[Oliverlogan263]

Sounds like you got this girl, I'm sure it'll be fine! We can all get shy sometimes, but you got way more game than you realize.

Don't even stress about catching him off guard - after a bit it'll be old news. And guys like it when a girl makes the first move, so you already got his attention.

Just be your fun, friendly self. Smile, play with your hair, make eye contact while you're chatty him up. He won't know what hit him!

Asking where he's from is such an easy opener. From there the conversation will flow naturally, I'm sure of it. You'll be laughing together before you know it.

He's definitely into you already from all the signs. So just relax and go for it! In a week he'll be fine. And after you two connect chatting, he'll be hooked.

You've got this sis! Can't wait to hear how it goes. I'm betting he'll be dying to talk more with you soon. Stay confident, you got this in the bag!

[slatyb]

Why don't you ask him to lunch or dinner?

[Asker]

Does he appear interested? Was gonna try talking again ask where he’s from see if he talks not sure id want to ask him out like to lunch or dinner maybe ask to swap numbers possible he was shy before when I gave him mine or unsure the intentions