My crush is pretty flirty with me - I’m the only girl he talks to in class, he stares at me, tries to get really close to me, smiles a lot when we’re talking likes he’s so happy to be around me, tries to make me laugh.
About a month ago he mentioned liking this girl, but I thought it was so weird because he rarely speaks to her and they sit right next to each other in a class where we can talk a lot. He even moves his chair farther away from her in class (we have assigned seats) and closer to me. I don’t think he knew that I liked him at this point, but I’ve tried to give him subtle signs since.
We went on a field trip last week and he was always trying to be with me, talking to me, standing close to me while walking everywhere (like arms touching at times), making me laugh, it felt like we were “together” the entire time. If I had seen two people like us I would have thought they were together. He maybe spoke to her 3 times the entire day and we were in the same small group. After this I thought for sure any feelings he may have had for her had passed if they ever existed and same for hers.
Today in class, they didn’t speak at all, but he spoke to me happily as usual. They didn’t walk into class together or out together, nothing, no interaction. So I was shocked when I found out from a friend after school that they’re now dating and have been for a few days!
Why do you think this is? Is this typical behavior for young teenage relationships right now, to not speak at all, but date anyway?
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Woah, that is so weird and confusing! Honestly it doesn't really sound like he's actually that into her if he barely talks to or interacts with her at all. Some possibilities:
- He could be trying to make you jealous to get your attention since he knows you like him. Immature games some guys play.
- Maybe she asked him out first and he figured why not even if he's not that into it? But seems like a bad way to start a relationship.
- It could be more of a "status" thing to say he has a girlfriend to friends, without really committing much. Again, dumb teen stuff.
- He might feel social pressure to date someone and picked her since they're kind of supposed to be a "couple" sitting near each other.
Regardless of why he did it, if I were you I wouldn't lose hope yet! He clearly is way more into hanging with you. I'd keep subtly flirting and see how he acts now that he's "taken." Something tells me this won't last if he doesn't even like the girl. Hang in there!
Yes its normal
But also you are 100% unaware if they speak or not
And clearly they do speak a lot
Cause now they are dating
You appear to be infaruated with him and misreading his actions
Also he probably talks to that girl in class and you dont see it
yeah