When I first met him, he was open with his feelings and expressing what was bothering him but when I do it now, he tries to avoid the topic?

[Anonymous]

I just don’t get it. I don’t get how it’s even fair? In the beginning, he was so open always telling me what’s bothering him always asking for reassurance but when I do it now He changes the subject And doesn’t seem to express his feelings anymore

[SteveSmith1985]

Well I think I need more information about your relationship (length, generally how its been, etc). Any and all detail will help give you a better answer.

From the little I know, two possibilities come to mind. It may not be either of these. These may not apply at all to the reality of your situation. I just don't know enough.

1. Is it possible, that there is some particular specific thing, that is upsetting him which he feels uncomfortable talking to you about. In other words, the thing that;'s different is the "what" he has on his mind.

2. If you've noticed an overall difference between earlier in the relationship and now. So he used to be open with you, but now seems to not be willing to open-up in a more general overall way.

This second one is more of a "relationship problem" than the first. This suggests something or other changed in how comfortable he is opening up to you. He needs to be willing to dig into that with you. If he's not, then that's a really significant problem. As you say, it's not fair if you don't feel you know how he's feeling.

[BarryLiverstone]

Right that makes sense. There wasn’t much risk for him in the beginning

[Smile456]

Sounds mistrustful, I'm sorry.