Do boys fail to realise that trying to make a girl jealous is a huge turn-off for women too?

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Maybe you’re perfect in every way and even your personality is perfect for that girl but you putting another girl above her and even trying to make her jealous can ruin all your magic. Do boys still think it can make the girl want you more? It ruins the charisma. You end up getting rejected despite being so good and the imperfections of your favourite exposed brutally in a way the girl dreaming of you never wanted. Unnecessary drama I say 🎭

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

I’m sure some do but not all of us do. Trying to make someone jealous is immature behavior and childish behavior, I know some girls’ that are very immature and childish as well , that I lost my interest in immediately when a girl acts that way. Shit my ex tried making me jealous a lot of times to the point I threw in the towel on her childish ass. I literally can’t stand selfish immature people period , that lack dignity and respect for others. It’s a big turn off to me. Probably why I am having a hard time finding the right girl because most of the ones I been with ended up being selfish and immature , so until I find a girl that isn’t? My ass is staying single until then. I no longer rush into relationships mainly for that reason of a girl can’t be respectful and mature and honest with me , I won’t do the same for her. My ex use to get jealous of me for the dumbest things to the point I had a constant question mark over my head as to why? She was very anti social and hated when other people would talk to me and hated if they actually liked me , I never understood why she was like that for a long ass time until I realized she is jealous of me. Instead of being loving and supportive of me , it was like she had to rain on my parade to the point i had to walk away from her , she became this negative person that constantly brought misery into my life I knew she suffered mental illness and I thought I could handle it , but I realized I couldn’t , it was sadly toxic shit. Separating from her was the best thing I did for myself because sadly I was blind by it for a long ass time. .

14gurlz2gagonit · Accepted Answer

I mean maybe, but they do it it and it works most of the time. A woman with straying eyes often will keep her eyes on him with such a game played unless she was already at least 90% ready to end the relationship.

And don't act like girls do it too. They'll pull the same exact shit just to get attention directed firmly on herself. "Oh look at me, I have all these men trying to text me on my phone." I've seen the same game you're talking about played by women the most.

Now with that said, as a dude, if you as another dude feels she's got her attention span firmly pressed on other dudes so much that you want to play this sort of game on a chick... just end it and let her go back to the streets. You're trying to turn a hoe into a housewife my dude and it never works out unless you deal with a bunch of the trash she's going to bring long term.

If you're a chick and some dude is pulling that shit on you, you probably have been flirting with guys, talking to an ex, or showing major signs of cheating potential for a while already. He's resorting to some bullshit just to keep you and you're probably not going to stop. Probably already cheated already. You've reduced that guy to acting like this just to keep your gaze upon him and not the other options... just admit you're already ready to leave and put him out of his misery, and just leave him. Don't string him along just because you like attention no matter where you get it.

PBandJ_Nerd · Accepted Answer

If someone did that to me, I think I'd be more heartbroken, upset, & angry to even date him anyway. If you want to date a specific person, just ask them out instead of avoiding it & planning to make her jealous. It's a lot easier to get someone if you're upfront that you have a crush on them. And if you can't use words, a single rose or chocolate works nicely to say "Hey, I like you."

unknowngurll1212 · Accepted Answer

Absolutely agree. Trying to make a girl jealous doesn’t create attraction... it creates doubt, hurt, and distance. If a guy truly values a girl, he won’t play mind games. Respect and genuine attention will always be more attractive than manipulation. ..🤍

Shiprex · Answer

No one appreciates that kind of mind games. Intentionally going out of your way to make a partner feel inferior to someone UNLESS you're both super confident in each other that it's actually NOT about jealousy and more about showing others just how wonderfully into each other you are in public (both of you always return to show clearly who you're with) but I think feeling jealous is more of a personal insecurity that it ought to be.

Like being nice or kind to someone, offering someone help and support and just being there for them who isn't your partner is just how some people are. It's NOT about going out of their way to harm a partner IF the partner is not communicating their state of mind to them up to this point and making sure they're feeling like they need attention BUT that could also end up being seen as needy so a balance is required.

I can't say jealousy is part of my repertoire of emotions though I imagine if my wife were becoming inappropriate (in my opinion) I would say something IN PUBLIC to both parties rather than seethe about it and resent it.

Angelo75 · Answer

Well I see this topic more like some kind of way of discouraging guys to do so.
Frankly this works same for girls and guys.

Having a guy or girl trying purposely to make you jealous just shows what kind of person that guy or girl is. Instant 1-way-ticket to my blacklist.

That being said, I think that there are just as much girls out there who will fight (figuratively speaking) for the guy just like guys who would fight (figuratively speaking) for a girl.

So perhaps this topic should be "do PEOPLE" fail to realise that trying to make "someone" jealous tends to backfire?

Something like that.

SteveSmith1985 · Answer

This is not a "boys" thing. I've known so so many girls who think this way too.
I agree that it's absurd and really really stupid. It's just not a gender thing. It's a thinking in a dumb way thing. 🙂

IslaTheWitch · Answer

don't make it about gender... some people think that making the other person jealous is the way to win their interest... sometimes it's funny to watch :D

Lliam · Answer

People who play mind games to get what they want deserve to have their tactics backfire.  Manipulators suck. By definition, they are insincere, dishonest and untrustworthy.

NathanDavis · Answer

that's why I never played games like that...

Orion84 · Answer

I think that anyone, male or female, who intentionally tries to make someone else jealous is not only an idiot, but far too immature to be in a relationship at all. Those kind of games are red flags.

OneViewpoint · Answer

Interesting. I’ve never played that game. I never saw the logic in trying to make someone jealous. Just seems doomed to blow up in your face. People actually do this? Why?

Emmann88 · Answer

Yes, just as bad as when a girl does it, but girls tend to get more violent when a guy does it. (My nuts are sore just thinking about the last time I did it)

WhitneySnow · Answer

I think boys don’t realize this. And you’re absolutely right.

alice55 · Answer

I think the one who try to do this are immature

blackeagle007 · Answer

I’ve at that happen to me by other females. It’s childish as hell and never works. If I’m not into you, then I don’t care who you date. Move on from me.

princeofromance · Answer

Girls love when men try to make them jealous.

Jay-_- · Answer

Never did and never felt the need to make a girl I like jealous.

Spencer10 · Answer

Boys dont... but men do.

wkhan_87 · Answer

Girls are already very jealous.

Kingofkings1992 · Answer

We don’t do that. That’s a woman thing.

ThebestIndian · Answer

I learnt it hard way.

Sono83 · Answer

Jealousy is a nasty trait.

bddddd · Answer

hmmm

Smile456 · Answer

Nope

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