How does that person really feel about me?

Question

i met this guy from a dating app.

A terrible app that i decided to use it just to kill time so what i usually do is match someone and have long phone conversations at night to feel less depressed.

i ve been doing that for a month. Talked to 20+ different people and i never keep them as friends in reality. That made me feel secure.

One night i met a guy. He said he was new there. I told him all the funny things i ve been though. How i met weirdo / criminal in that app and how i got away.

After two days of chatting in the late night, we exchanged pictures.  In the picture, he looked decent , looks like he has a good career. Mature and athletic. He is a football coach , also working at the bank.
Everything was cool.
Til one night, he started flirting.
He asked me if i liked him , joke about having kids.. sometimes some sexual questions.

I told him i felt uncomfortable , we are also incompatible but He was aggressive.

then i decided to asked him if he would pay my phone bills he said yes but never really paid…

he even told me he had bought me sths (but i ve never got that til now.. been a month now. )

I asked him why he started paying no attention to my funny jokes and stories. He said all these stuffs are negative. How am i supposed to react. I really thought he liked my sense of humour…

After a while, i feel like i started getting confused. I feel addicted to his attention.
What made it worse is i told him things i would never tell to others.
Like how i sell secondhand clothings to men and stuffs. And he would make fun of me.

I never expected i would like him. I asked him why he been flirty and saying things sexual. He said he was just joking he would never actually do these things. And we are friends….

Updates

1 y

one day He asked me to meet him in person. He drove to my home town. We had dinner together. I was super anxious. he was being nice. opened door for me and paid for the dinner. made sure i got home safely.
All the gestures kind of made me feel like he valued that date. He joked about we live together but later he would called us friends..

ManOnFire · Accepted Answer

Really hard to say. He could only be into you lustfully and nothing more, or he was into you at first and then just lost that kind of interest so now only likes you as a friend, or he's really not sure what he feels or wants. Hard to tell, and these early stages don't tell enough.

One thing though: you shouldn't be telling some of your biggest secrets to people you really don't even know, especially on any kind of dating site/app.

ProbablyClueless · Accepted Answer

He's definitely frustrated with you... I'm not too sure beyond that, though. He might still be making up his mind. It's pretty clear that he's picked up on the vibe that you aren't serious about following through on any connections you make on the app though.

jennifer_bloom · Accepted Answer

You expect us to believe a guy works as an investment banker and a football coach at the same time? It’s obvious to me you have a brain injury and nobody believes your lies about me.