Guys only? What do guys talk about with their friends when they really like a girl?

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MrOracle · Accepted Answer

Unless the girl in question has a bad reputation, the answer is usually NOTHING. For men, liking a girl or asking her out is a solo exercise and he doesn't involve his friends. If he has a problem in the relationship, or maybe if he is afraid to ask her out, a guy MIGHT talk to his best friend about it, but that's the exception, not the rule.

Men instinctively know that they don't want other guys getting involved in their business, and so they purposely don't involve themselves in their friends' business.

Obviously, there does exist the "class clown"/"loudmouth loser" type guy who tells everyone everything, but most groups of guy friends don't have one of those, and generally keep their business as far away from that kind of guy as they can.

For the most part, guys don't talk to other guys about girls they actually have feelings for. Some might talk about banging some girl who isn't "relationship material", but not girls they have feelings for. They just keep that to themselves.

Girls care a lot about the consensus - the group opinion - but guys are independent - they don't care what other guys might think for the most part. It usually doesn't even occur to them to ask, because the only option that matters is his own.

Hardon-Collider · Accepted Answer

I know that the answer is supposed to be some childish recall of how we talked with other boys. But I'll still write my latest best advice instead. It reminds how Buddhist samurais refused to slaughter if angry:

If you can't reject her, then you must reject her. Because if you can't reject everyone, then you can't commit to anyone. ㅤ

Unycorn · Accepted Answer

You can setup when you create the topic that only guys can answer ;) there is a point in the menue

ᴍᴀʀʀɪᴇᴅɪsʟᴀᴍɪᴡᴏʀsʜɪᴘ · Accepted Answer

She describes being in love by asking, "Does he/she love me?"

Zack-Bann · Answer

“I don’t know man… usually I wouldn’t think too hard about it and just flirt but this one seems tricky…”

If the friend is perceptive he will get it and ask
“Tricky huh? Sounds like you’re into her a bit more than the last one”

Obviously the first guy will deny it because he still doesn’t know how it will workout but by then it’s too late

His friend already knows what’s up

Guys don’t go opening their hearts and writing romance novels in their minds when we like a girl

Typically what happens is a loss of appetite, disrupted sleep pattern
Disinterest in random girls on the street
And a bit of self hatred for feeling this way

ohsheeT · Answer

I'm not that guy. To talk about any girl with guys  i kinda think that it's rude  when guys do that  well i know its rude sometimes you have to say bro. I dont want to hear this she your girl friend but she's my friend to and
I don't think that she would appreciate you saying things that you're saying

DonaldDarko · Answer

I wouldn't talk about her at all for both our protection. Private things are private for a reason. I knew a guy who got married an none of us even knew he was involved with a girl. We found out second hand. He was smart, you can't trust everyone.

Anonymous · Answer

We don’t. We’re not gossip girls. I might day yes I like her but that’s about it. I’m not sitting around talking about how she gives me butterflies, how when I see her my world lights up. We don’t talk about mushy bs like that. There’s no need to talk about those things. The best way to understand men in most cases is to think how you would respond or what you or a majority of women would do or how you’d answer,. Then take the opposite of that to understand how men would respond. For instance women are usually attracted to status, money, height, etc. Men usually want the opposite of that. We don’t want a boss babe. We usually don’t want someone who is taller than us. Finances usually don’t matter cause a majority of women aren’t going to take over all the bills, they usually still want men to co to us. To pay for everything.

BruceWayne32123 · Answer

I think it varies depending on how old/mature the guys are and how close of friends they are. I remember when I was younger and talking about girls it was all about their looks…now it would be a little deeper talking about their personality and what we have in common or what we have done if we hung out. All my guy friends know me enough that they’ll jokingly ask “how nice is her butt” because they know that’s important to me 😂

NathanDavis · Answer

I don't

no need...

if I like her and she's interested/intrigued as well then it is about me and her, nothing, nobody else...

and if I might like her and she's not into it... then there's nothing to talk with nobody and I just move on, lol

Angelo75 · Answer

Many times they won't really talk much about her.

If he really likes her, he'd consider it a bit rude to go tell other people about her personality etc...
Second, if he is wise he'll be careful also cuz u never know which ill-intended people out there might try to sabotage the relationship. (jealousy etc...)

Alex-Snow · Answer

Great? Usually for the most part I try to talk about the positive things about a girl I like. Things like she has a great smile, makes me feel comfortable around her, likes some of the things I do, is smart or witty and takes care of her health/body. Yes some guys like to mention sex but a lot f it is bragging, embellishment or just not true. What have u noticed with ur boyfriends?

Twodogs0525 · Answer

I imagine it's about the same as what girls talk about with their friends. Maybe a little more graphic 🤭 A guy takes a risk when he even tells a group of friends he likes a girl, because they'll make sure to embarrass him in front of her!

AviatorTom · Answer

That's a secret. To reveal it would violate the sacred makes oath. Would you tell us what you girls talk about when you really like a guy? I've had various women say it's mostly about sex and money.

Staximus · Answer

For me it's usually something like "damn, this girl makes me feel like a complete idiot" or "this girl makes me feel like I can just be at ease and relax, be myself"

David__951 · Answer

I would talk with my trusted friends that I like her and how she is kind and treating others in a good way and maybe in future we can end up being together stuff like that

exitseven · Answer

I usually keep it close to the vest. I do not say too much.

jamesgoldman · Answer

We don't  Only time I've known guys to talk is when they're planning to make a move either asking a girl out or proposing marriage

David318578 · Answer

Generally not a lot, other then saying you really like this girl or think she is hot and your going to try and ask her out. But thats basically just to call "dibs" so your boys dont go for the same girl you like

LiamS95 · Answer

I don't talk to my friends about her unless they know she's my girl friend but still most things about her and us is none of their business.

Tamera952 · Answer

Blowjobs. Blowjobs, blowjobs, and mainly, blowjobs.

Hagar88 · Answer

They dont. They keep their cards close to their chest until she's his girl.

Finchie40 · Answer

How beautiful she is and how great her personality is if he is head over heels for her ,

zagor · Answer

Depends on what they like about her. If it's appearance, they talk about that. If she has a great personality, believe it or not, they talk about that.

Darklydarkened · Answer

We start a poll on exactly how long it will take to sleep with her

Danny_dan92 · Answer

With girls I have hook ups with I’ve gone as far as showing them her nudes. With girls I dated selfies and talk about how she is

WonderingManII · Answer

I only talk about a girl that I'm having trouble with. She's confusing me and I need advice.

Anonymous · Answer

Generally, nothing. They will make fun of you.

Anonymous · Answer

When guys are your age, all they do is talk trash. How hot she is? have you had sex? does she put out? They're just boys.

Pterodon · Answer

That’s just it. When we really like and respect her we say nothing

Dman19 · Answer

The physical part is definitely a huge bonus but if they are really nice and sweet and would make a great wife then that’s much more important

spartan55 · Answer

Yeah we don't really participate in all that.

jshm2 · Answer

We don't talk about the girl.

andreasderjuengere · Answer

Beer, motorbikes, sports events, politics, hobbies

Chocolatetwopoint3 · Answer

I would assume sexual stuff

In_Trance · Answer

Sports, music, video games... The usual

DrPepper12 · Answer

We don't.

Anonymous · Answer

They really don't.

Anonymous · Answer

I usually say how beautiful she is.

beefcakebradybatson · Answer

Her body !!!

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