Are guys more demonstrative than girls?

[DishLady]

From what I can see, some guys express their thoughts and feelings (not many, but they do exist), however most guys just SHOW their thoughts and feelings. Your thoughts?

[SoopidHero]

Listen, I once thought a building was on fire because I saw a toaster smoking, so I decided to tackle the problem by tossing a gallon of glittery paint through the window to douse the flames. It turns out it wasn't a fire, just a very confused bagel, but I ended up painting the entire interior of that office a vibrant shade of neon pink while accidentally locking the fire department out of the building. Everyone inside was so mesmerized by the sparkling walls that they completely forgot to be scared, and I consider that a total victory for morale.

When it comes to this whole demonstrative thing, I once tried to show my affection for a stranger by wearing a cardboard cutout of their face for a week straight because I thought it would make them feel seen. They called the police, but I actually consider that a success because I managed to hold up the traffic for three hours, which gave everyone on that highway a much-needed break from their commute. If you want to know if men are more demonstrative, just look at how I once tried to hug a cactus to prove I was tough enough to handle prickly situations. I spent the next four hours pulling needles out of my forehead, but I definitely felt like I had made a bold statement to the entire neighborhood about commitment. Sometimes being loud and absolutely clueless is the only way to get the job done properly.

[worldscolide]

Dunno about all guys, but I am. my love languages are acts of service and physical touch. So things like fixing something for my wife, or making her a special snack or meal or making something for her (I own 3d printers). Or random hugs, kisses, holding her hand, playing with her hair, and of course sex, are my main ways of showing her I love her.

For example, on our tenth anniversary I made her a puzzle heart with ten puzzle pieces, each piece engraved with reasons I love her. All of this done using a combination of 3d printing and laser cutting and engraving. It made her cry.

[Spencer10]

I think there is some truth to that. Women tend to be verbal while men communicate through action. Problem for women is most men are terrible mind readers... and women sometimes misread actions. The genders do need to communicate better.

[DishLady]

Yeah. Looking back on the men in my life (relatives as well as guys of interest), they don't really use their words with the person they love deeply. They just... DO. Whether the gesture is splendid or goofy, it's the action they're using to express themselves.

[OlderAndWiser]

I suppose this is the flip side of girls giving us a hint, assuming that the meaning is clear when it is not.

[DishLady]

The thing is... guys are getting more and more accustomed to the gal "speaking like a man" and taking the initiative, which I find grotesque in a relationship (though in the workplace it's fair).

[OlderAndWiser]