Is a girl that gets a lot of male attention a turn off?

[Anonymous]

I attract lots of attention from guys, especially since I am friends with mostly guys, but I never hookup with any of them. I'm only concerned about this because this guy I like sometimes gets annoyed when we are talking and some guy comes up and starts hitting on me. He probably does not know I've never been with any of them, but I just don't want him to think I am some sort of tease, or that he has lots of competition, because he is honestly the only guy I want right now. He is really shy so he will never come up and grab me and initiate anything like most other guys, but I just have no idea how to start anything with him without him taking it the wrong way.

[Anonymous]

A guy will think whatever he wants. There's really nothing you can do to change his mind if he's got a certain vision of you in his head (positive or negative).

If you're around a lot of guys, it may be a good idea to meet with this fellow at places where your pack of friends won't really tend to go. A lot of times, guy friends are caught somewhere between WANTING you and WATCHING OUT for you. Ironically, sometimes they're not sure which one they're doing while they're doing it, but the result is the same: the new kid gets shut out or shunned as an outsider and you're left with the same group of guy friends and no boyfriend.

I had two good guy friends in college and they basically hung around whenever a guy came anywhere near me. It definitely put a damper on my potential to start up a relationship. It was no help that one of the guys liked me and that my mom had asked the other guy to watch me like a hawk.

Memories... Sigh.

[markml]

It's a good sign actually.

If he is getting annoyed, then he probably is a little jealous, but I am sure his annoyance is mainly directed at the other guys and not you.

Honestly, what will matter most is how you treat him, not how you treat the other guys. If you acted like you didn't have enough time for him because you have 100 other guy friends, then that could be a bit of a turn-off. But if you treat him special, and do things to boost his self-esteem he won't care how many guys are your friends.

[Shadd]

Yeah, it is for me, its a pretty harmful truth. Its a turn-off for relationships because the guy will feel like he doesn't deserve you, you might leave him for someone better or there's too much competition out there. But if you want to show that you aren't interested in talking to anyone else but him, I suggest what Vonte said and tell people to back off when they get in the way.

[Vonte]

Depends on how you handle the attention. When you two are talking and a guy comes up and start talking to you do you talk to them back or say something like "You're being rude. Can't you see I'm already talking?"

Generally its not a turn off but it does make men over think about whether they should approach you or not

[Anonymous]

Not necessarily. If you're a naturally flirty person, I'd probably have a problem with it. I mean, as your boyfriend, how would I hone in on the guys that you actually like if you're doing that with everyone? I think having mostly guy friends would probably keep me away more than everyone finding you attractive.