Oh that is so not true! Here's what it is and why your perception is mixed. When it comes to black women and black men We have fallen off with each other. The black men from my experience has seen us as nagging, too proud, and a struggle to be with because of attitude and because we don't just let things fly. And the ones that are successful and not that way come off as untouchable and intimidating. To tell you the the truth all the black women I know and including myself wanted to much to be with a good black men, but unfortunately there are a shortage of men compared to the number of women and ontop of that not enough black men. So the good ones are hard to find and/or are taken. I've not had much relations but many of the men I talked to (Men) looked to that from me and in the same conversation would down the very same time of women who birthed them saying they would marry and settle with all other races. I've talked to the so called nerd, street guy, the simple guy, etc when it came to black men their mentality when it came to women wasn't much different. Me growing up was well endowed with my body parts and whether I covered up or not I was treated the same especially by black men and I was the sheltered type. Not gullible but sheltered. Men assumed I was there to be a f*** toy instead of a woman who was to be by their side in life even still after I wasted my time trying to prove them other wise. Other races have tried the same thing with me but Black men were notorious for doing that to me and other great women I know. I've even dated an older guy who would make me feel like I was supposed to answer to his every beckon but acted like when I did things for him it wasn't worth shxt and the moment I started to not care he would see and acted like he wanted me around. It was like a game. He happened to be a few years older than me and I was 21. He was doing things for himself and trying to make something of himself but he didn't treat me like a woman but he acted like a child and had the nerve to call me one. We broke it off and half a year later he was trying to get me back because he knew what it was like to have a real woman by his side. I wasn't interested and now I'm with some one who happens to be white. I don't see his color nor did he see mine. He saw someone beautiful and worth his time and I saw the same in him.
Black men are often seen as an erotic object, rugged tough, and a thing to do when it comes to other races from what I've seen and the way they talk about you. They can't seem to get past that. Black men from what I've noticed want some one who gives no lip back and accept everything as is. That's not how relationships are to be but other races allow that because of the stigma that comes with a black man or they just don't mind,
Black Men were and always will be number one in my book as the most beautiful man on earth and even so to many other races. Both sides have a lot of straightening up to do (women/men).
I have dated several black men in the past and let me tell you ALL of them had a very hawty temper. I'm a black woman myself and you know how they have that stereotype going around that black men and women are just angry creatures all around. I'm the type of person I don't like to argue, but every single time I found myself dating a black man our arguments were a whole lot more heated than one I would have with some of my other exes who were of other nationalities.
I don't mind dating black men I find them desirable and others I find just irresistibly s*xy. As I said I find black men attractive and will date them. I am just a bit more picky when it comes to dating black men, if I can find a black man that fits my personality type a bit better then I would definitely date them. I know there are some very mild tempered black men out there, I just haven't found them yet. lol
So in all its not looks for me, but rather personality. This may very well be the case for other women as well of other nationalities.
And stop worrying about all of that. You should have confidence in your self you shouldn't need validation from anyone else to know whether or not you're attractive. You attractiveness is determined by your happiness and the confidence within your self.
Hi iam a French black woman iam telling you need to move to France all thwart white and Arabic girls are only into black guys. Iam not jealous or something I just like Indian or gulf countries guys. Good Luke
I'd say yes, Black men are the least attractive men. Sure, if you are a Black celebrity, you're going to do alright, and if you are a Black guy going for the fat chicks and otherwise unattractive women, you can get some, but the average Black man is looked down upon globally.
Take Asia, for instance. Any reject white guy will get laid and have a harem in Taiwan, Korea, China, Japan, etc., but Black men that show up (even some that were lady-killers in their home countries) will be stuck with celibacy. We are seeing the same in the States too. If a regular Black guy (not some light-skinned pretty boy that can pass for another race) dates out, it tends to be ugly women, and many Black women are on this feminist, "Black men ain't sh*t" kick.
It sucks, but I can't blame anyone as Black men are at the bottom of the heap financially and politically, and what little cool factor we had in entertainment and sports also seems to be waning away as it is "appropriated" by other races (to be honest, these industries were owned by other races, and it was the other races that reaped most of the profits; just modern-day slavery with a few more perks for the slaves).
I'm a white guy too, and it seems I'm not the type of truckloads of women.
You know, websites like this one, or tv, or magazines, makes us think that 90% of people get all the opposite gender' attention just by snapping fingers, that you just have to talk to a girl with a smile on the face to get a date, and stuff like that.
The truth is, according to me, that one should already consider himself lucky when he can talk to someone at a pub (or anywhere else), even luckier if he can get a number, much luckier when it leads to a date, and even much luckier than it leads to a relationship.
The bottleneck in the process is to actually find someone who will date you, and despite the optimistic people's thinking, it's hard as f***.
So I don't think it's because you are black, it's more because you aren't lucky (but then again, it's like "winning the lottery"-lucky), so don't blame yourself, don't blame anyone else, and keep looking for occasions : it's just like that.
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That just can’t be true. Black men (and women) are just as beautiful and desirable. There is such a stigma for black people, it’s so disappointing- especially because so many people like yourself begin to view themselves in a negative light due to the lack of attention in media and who knows what else. I really don’t feel that black men are least desirable or anything like that. That seems so silly to me. What I do feel though - as farfetched as this may seem- is that there’s still a strong presence of tradition in our society. And this plays a big role in partner selection as far as cultural background. Not only that, but I feel that media is largely to blame for our views of beauty. If you haven’t noticed (sarcasm) lighter skin is highly favored. This is changing, but I remember growing up that there were very little dark-skinned toys to choose from. And even if there were, chances are as children we would have preferred the lighter skinned toys because we were taught to associate dark things with evil (haha). For example, there was a psychological study done with kids where they were told to pick things they thought were nicer or more beautiful and often there was a light skin preference. It’s all thanks to media influence…
But anyways.. I didn’t mean to rant about that, really..
In short: I personally do not consider black men to be least desirable. I genuinely think all different colors are beautiful and that every man has their own appeal. I think that a majority of people have a subconscious media/traditional cultural thing going on and that’s why you may feel this way.
And hopefully this all makes sense, because I’m totally buzzing right now.. =D
You know I have a couple of girlfriends who are black and they feel exactly the same as you do. I don't know why you guys all feel that way, but it's not true.
According Wikipedia we are more attraced to our own race or races similiar to us
"Several studies have suggested that people are generally attracted to people who look like them[175] and they generally evaluate faces that exhibit features of their own ethnic or racial group as being more attractive"
So that may explain why some white girls say black guys are not their "type", but at the same time I'm sure most of them would not not date a black if he was great otherwise
Whhhaaattt? When did black men become more undesirable. I was under the impression that every woman of every race desired black males. That's all I am seeing in Ny these days. Black men are great. I thought black women where the ones with the raw deal. I think as a race we need to not care if others considers us undesirable and be confident in our own skin. I have read studies that says black women are less desirable. We just need to as a race make ourselves more desirable and change statistics not purpetuate it.
There is nothing wrong with African American men. From what I see, they happen to be just as attractive as every other race. You can't say you don't feel attractive because a few females said no to you. From what I've seen in modern cities/countries, African American men are attractive to all races. I've seen them with Caucasians, Hispanics, Europeans, and other African Americans.
You can't exactly pull the race card in such situations mainly because it's 2012 and society in itself has developed.
Even in Asian counties where it is customary to be with your own race, a lot of people are trying new things out. I know plenty of Korean men and woman who have dated African Americans back home.
Race card can't be played in 21st century.
the only black people who whine about feeling the least desirable are the ones who don't date their race. how ironic
subsconsciously no one respects others who don't respect themselves. if you are going around chasing others to make yourself feel desirable, people will sense that and feel unattractive. many black men I know have their own swagger and confidence, but then you have the ones that just don't have it and are awkward. if you like you and take care of yourself you will be attractive. nobody is going to have everyone think they're hot sh*t but you will always have your fans.
Personality is the deciding factor, I think a lot of black guys are really good looking! I've even dated a few. Everyone has "types" but it shouldn't make you feel lower than everyone else. For example, Asian guys, call me shallow. I've seen good looking ones, but they're not my type either, I mean I just haven't ever been attracted to an Asian guy, doesn't mean they're ugly or anything's wrong with them, it's just a part of sexuality and preference. Same with blond guys, I'm a brunette, I've seen tons of hot blond guys, but for some reason I've never really fell for any no matter how good looking! It's hard to explain, but I guess my point is that people are all different, I can bet that I'm not a lot of people's type either. Doesn't mean I'm unnatractive or nasty lol, it's just a part of nature and we should learn to accept it. :)
I love all kinds of men, last week I went to a T-mobile outlet and there was this gorgeous black guy who worked there, and I was like mentally drooling for him, and its not just because he was cute, he had the nicest smile and seemed to have a nice personality, I wanted to flirt with him but I'm a shy person so I didn't and I had this dumb fantasy of him calling me up and asking me out because I bought and registered for a new sim and he knew my number because he entered all the details hehe. I think you just encountered some negative women, we love all kinds of men (most of us do).
That's why you should go for women who don't use a man's skin color as a basis to date or not date them. I'm black and I don't have that problem, but maybe it's because I'm not a stereotypical black guy. I'm in med school and have goals and dreams to be a successful and to help make society a healthier place. I don't judge people before I get to know them and I keep company with people who are like minded. I have no time for close minded people. I've dated girls across the color spectrum and I can tell you now that there are plenty of good women out out there who really don't care about a guys skin color
People say the same about black women. I'd know, I'm a black woman. We're supposedly the 'least attractive' women on earth according to a few studies. It stings a little, but I don't have a problem with being found attractive. You probably don't either, it's all in your head.
This will come off as ironic, but I don't date black men. Yeah, that's your point essentially, but it's not about their looks like you're under the impression of. It's that (at least where I am) they're all ghetto, hood, and ignorant. We have nothing in common, so I stick to who I do have things in common with: white men.
There's someone out there for you, you've just got to stop worrying about how you look and live. It'll happen.
Cmon man get the f*** outta here.
Why do you have to blame it on race? Why don't you look at yourself as a PERSON and make changes to yourself that attracts girls.
The rule is general for all guys.
1-Good hygene
2-fit body
3-clean clothes with a defined style
4-confidence.
Your are making bullsh*t excuses and its pathetic. Go look at your personality and you as a whole person, don't blame all of your insecurities on your race.
wow I think black people play the race card wayyyy too much, its ridiculous. If you just don't like a particular black person because they're genuinely an ass, then you're a racist, if you point out that they're wrong, you're racist. Stop blaming the fact that you can't get laid on being black, or that other people are discriminating against you because you're black, maybe it's you? I think its time black people moved on, yeah you guys were treated badly, but now you're on top of the world. Sometimes I wish I was black because of the preferential treatment you guys get. I remember a while back at the NBA all star 2012. that P diddy shouted 'BLACK POWER' to the audience, I mean could you imagine if a white person shows up there, and shouts 'WHITE POWER' to everyone? It'd be all over the news and he'd probably be arrested and thrown in jail. You're lucky you're black in this day and age, deal with it.
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Not to be rude, but it's 2012 and time to stop blaming race on everything. This typical "i'm a victim" attitude won't get you or anyone else anywhere.
And there's nothing wrong with having preferences so long as no one is going out of their way to be disrespectful.
Black men probably aren't most white womens type, so if that's the dream you're clinging on to, you better open your eyes and get some more preferences
How amazing, a African American females are always the majority to fend for Black men. On the flip side Black men are the least supportive of the African American females on G&G especially when nasty insults are hurled at them making them feel insecure about who they are. How sad! Who gives a f*** about your insecurities?
I know it's the trends they suck. If you're not a white hipster douche with disfiguring and ugly "stretchers", unkempt facial hair and ugly tattoos, you're out!
Or you could do a bit more work and find the emotionally mature women that are hiding on the top branches and leave the low hanging fruit to rot with the worms.
It shouldn't matter to you, as a black man, what women of other races find attractive. You should only care about what black women think of you, and I believe they find black men to be the most attractive. As a black man, you should date and marry a black woman and have black kids. White people should marry whites and have white kids, etc. The far left media is encouraging racial mixing and this is going to cause the world great pain. It is disrespectful to black women and your whole black race for you, a black man, to desire and or mess around with white/Asian/Latino women. Stop thinking about white/Asian/Latino women and get a black girl.
i don't agree with this. I almost dated a black guy, but I ended it before it came to that. the reason wasn't his skin color but his personality... I think black men often have a hot body and healthy looking skin (also it is more toned). I think most black men are very attractive.
asian men and black women are considered least desirable.
its black women that is getting the raw end of the deal.
plus black men are not white womens type most of the time until they get a contract of some sort. then they love black men .
same question. maybe girls aren't into You has nothing to do with being black.. I'm black and guys approach me. So really? Race isn't always a huge factor sometimes it's just you.
I think the media portrays them in a certain way. For example, if you look at a movie or TV show and there's criminals in them they're almost always black men. Then again you don't see a lot of organized crime with white people. Some of them just get together put on white sheets and March through the streets hooting and hollering.
I'm a white guy, so take this with a grain of salt, but I've never heard girls say anything like that. I've always been under the impression that lots of chicks think black guys are more masculine on some level. Sorry things aren't working out. I'm white and I strike out, too.
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