Ladies why does it seem that your more attracted to aloof men?

[Anonymous]

for those of you who don't know what aloof means, it mean distant. it seem like when I meet a girl and get to know her having a nice time. then the next day I end up being aloof like I don't like to be smothered but that how I got most of my gf's by being aloof. unpredictable. why is that so attractive? I don't do it on purpose. even my zodiac sign(Aquarius) says I do it and I do.

[dourGeek]

Well, if the case is that your unintentional aloof personality is what is reeling girls in, I'm sure that there is also more to it. However, the sense of aloofness gives off a mysterious gibe that many girls seem to like, even myself. Another thing is that some girls appreciate that you aren't so clingy and that they are able to have their own free time withough hurting you.

Take into consideration that you have many other traits that could be what is drawing girls in and relax. If there is something attracting girls, then that's good. No need to wonder excessively, am I right? Perhaps you can ask your girlfriend [if you have one presently] or perhaps even ask an ex-girlfriend who you are on good terms with.

[kaylaS91]

I think it would be due to a combination of reasons. For one, him creating distance would create a bit of a mystery. Everyone loves a mystery, girls especially love finding out what the reason for someone's behaviour may be. That also ties in to why girls always go for the 'bad guy'; a male who is aloof will come off sort of 'bad'. Think James Dean in Rebel Without a Cause. In certain cases also, a guy who's aloof won't be constantly chatting up other girls. If a girl happens to see he's not a serial flirter and she won't have to deal with much competition if she goes for him, that also can lead to attraction in itself.

[Prettygurl12]

You're not easy to figure out, thus you intrigue them.

[kheserthorpe]

They like the idea you have options, have a full and interesting life and aren't needy.

[Junooo1236]

It is the whole mystery aspect and you leave us wanting more. We wonder why you have gone aloof and need answers. You intrigue us and we can't get enough(:

[Asker]

or another thing that some how attract women that I notice. if I chase women they play hard to get so if I go aloof and they end up coming around some of my conversations I have with other people. they make themselves in the conversation or the next time they see me one on one they try to have a good conversation with me. I guess it's true conversation rules the nation.

[EmeraldSky]

I'm not more attracted to aloof men. In fact, aloof men tend to be aggravating to deal with romantically. A little bit of mystery can be enticing, but I'm a pretty open girl and if a guy is so distant that I feel like I'm pulling teeth to get him to cooperate then that's just annoying and I'll become disinterested.

[WhatTheSchmeck]

Amen to that!

[EmeraldSky]

lol! riiiight! ;D

[mattl338]

Same with girls for me. I’ve dealt with it so much im just not gunna bother.

[cutiepie828]

Think about it, anything worth having you can't just walk up to and grab, you have to work for it. And Id say most people want someone they have to try and keep up with so things don't get boring. So there's always a little bit of chase and excitment.

[Asker]

tat's well put.

[Asker]

i mean that's well put

[Olivia9]

Well, the same reason most guys like girls like that. I'm friendly and outgoing but guys like me more when I'm not that nice to them...it's weird. I think its not men or women but human nature.

[mattl338]

Really? Personally i hate it when girls are so closed off because that makes me think they don’t want to talk to me or get to know me.

[Eternallylucky]

Some girls like a challenge? Or being aloof means you don't act like a try hard and a desperado.
It probably makes them more comfortable in liking you?

[upood]

Mystery and intrigue. Wanting what we can't have is an instinct..competitive. We don't like it but sometimes can't help it!

[Rosaline1721]

It could add a "mysterious" aspect to your personality. A lot of women love mysterious men.

[mattl338]

That must be why im distant and a closed book, but still single.

[HannahC]

Because most girls love to create drama.

[brunettebelle]

You want what you can't have.

[Anonymous]

I don't know because I wouldn't put up with that.

[Asker]

hahayou chased men before rather you like it or not. or you tried to get his attention.

[Opinion Owner]

Nah not my style at all

[mattl338]

Uh yeah me neither, id just assume the girl doesn’t wanna talk to me or get to know me.

[frustratedchump06]

they want a challenge

[mattl338]

That’s seriously doubtful

[Anonymous]

I don't want to be smothered either.