He says he likes being single and unattached?

[Anonymous]

I met this guy a little over a month ago. Not the guy I would typically be attracted to. For the past 2 weeks, we have been talking every day. He's extremely flirty and we talk about a lot of deep things. No discussions about the weather here. Over time I've really begun to become attracted to him. It's gone from: I'm freaked out cause I have no control, but I'm not sure I wanna stop. Now it's: I know I don't want it to stop.

I saw him last night at an event. A lot of our friends were there. As we left, we talked outside in the parking lot for about 30 minutes. He brought up past girls dated and said he's really enjoying being single and unattached. Yet, he brings up he'll probably talk to me tomorrow and even left the invitation open to call that night. He even offered to drive me to my car, which was in eyesight. I thought it was silly, but caved.

This bothers me because unless I'm interested or vice versa, I don't talk to guys every day. I can't even think of one I call just for casual conversation. I didn't ask to start liking him, it just sort of fell in my lap. I'm just responding to everything he's doing. Responding to his flirting. Answering his phone calls and texts.

I'm just really confused and stuck. Is he into me or not?

[Littletad]

It's hard to say. Saying he prefers being single and unattached is a sign he's looking for a sexual relationship. Based on what you said, it seems like you've never really had time for guys or have just been single on your on personal choice. But it does seem like you'd like your boyfriend to be genuine.

Since he's casual talking to you and flirting with, I'd suggest you'd roll with the punches and do the same. Give him the same amount of interest he's giving you. However, do not fall into a sexual relationship with him. If he initiates sex soon, you'll soon learn he's merely playing with you and what he's really seeking. If you really want to truly find out how he feels about you, continue to play the field and don't give it up just yet. Let's see how much he's really into you, or just in it for a good time. After all, you deserve that much. Don't you think?

[Asker]

Who said anything about sex? And he's not exactly my boyfriend just yet.

[Littletad]

?... I did.

You asked if he's into you or not. Do you think a single guy who says he enjoys being unattached and single, isn't having a sex life? You missed the point of what I was trying to say. It's possible he's into you, or that he just wants a fling. That's what I was referring to, about sex.