Lost in life. I feel like I'm too stupid to go to college.

[Anonymous]

Title pretty much highlights my feelings.

I don't know why, but I feel like I have nothing to offer society. For the past six years I've been working a part-time job in retail and it really began to dawn on me about 6 months ago that I'm really not doing anything with my life. I want to get a better job - a career - but I feel like I'm not smart enough to go to school and get the education that I need.

I've never been a very good student as far as grades go; I've always tried so hard in school but I only averaged C's or so in high school so I feel like I'll just fail at college level and it'll be a waste of time and money. My older siblings constantly make fun of the fact that I still live with our mom and that I work a retail job, my friends call me stupid all the time, and I'm so lonely. I've never had a girlfriend; I've never even had a girl like me.

All of these feelings have gotten me seriously depressed the past few months or so and I'd be lying if I said I haven't thought about killing myself. I'm so sad, and I feel like I'm trapped in some whirlpool of sorrow. What's worse is that I'm too nice to ever really fight back when others make fun of me so I'm stuck keeping these feelings to myself.

Has anyone else ever felt this way? What should I do?

[XNicholex3]

There are people, who are homeless, with nothing. You aren't too stupid to go to college, there are people with autism who attend college everyday, doing the best they possibly can. So many people are going to college for many reasons, you are capable. Things could be worse, always could be worse. You must look at life with the glass half full, not half empty, you must be more optimistic, rather than pessimistic.

Of course everyone has their moments of feeling down and negative, but you must learn to knock yourself out of it, and back into positive thinking.

Look up at the sky and take a deep, refreshing breath, and enjoy being alive, because it is a blessing to be able to have the chance to live, whilst others not so lucky, for it was taken away from them. You have every opportunity in your hands, you need to believe you can grasp a hold of it. With crap going on in the world, you are lucky to even have a part-time job, frankly you have it well. Most people don't even realize what they have till it is gone.

"There comes a time when you have to stand up and shout:This is me damn it! I look the way I look, think the way I think, feel the way I feel, love the way I love! I am a whole complex package. Take me... or leave me. Accept me - or walk away! Do not try to make me feel like less of a person, just because I don't fit your idea of who I should be and don't try to change me to fit your mold. If I need to change, I alone will make that decision.When you are strong enough to love yourself 100%, good and bad - you will be amazed at the opportunities that life presents you."

Stacey Charter

"Don't rely on someone else for your happiness and self worth. Only you can be responsible for that. If you can't love and respect yourself - no one else will be able to make that happen. Accept who you are - completely; the good and the bad - and make changes as YOU see fit - not because you think someone else wants you to be different."

Stacey Charter

[suzyy]

Yes I was depressed when I was younger... for me I was too stressed out with schoolwork. I did get good grades but I was never happy about it really. I didn't study for myself but for my parents.. I was constantly put under pressure.. they expected me to be PERFECT. I hate studying even now! But then I realized education is really important.. that does not mean you have to go to Harvard or other ivy league schools to be successful. If you do not think you are "smart" enough, go to community college and work your way up there. You can then transfer to another university and study HARD! Average of C isn't too bad I mean I've seen people who get Fs and have GPA of 1.0~2.0 and they still went to college. Please don't give up! You should at least give it a try.. you can't do anything if you don't even make an effort. Right now I think you have no confidence at all and you pretty much gave up on yourself. You say you're trying hard but maybe you're not trying hard enough. You have to be patient with yourself and take steps slowly.. do not rush. Also, do not care about what your friends say about you. Before you even go to a college or university, I think you should build confidence and don't let other people belittle you like that.

[nermalinda]

You are NOT too stupid to do something. You can do a variety of things. You can go to school for plumbing, welding, or locksmith, get a good job, and make a bunch of money.

Then you can move out.

It sucks that your siblings make fun of you, but success is the best revenge.

Also, you should work out. It gets rid of negative emotions to an extent and will make you feel better about yourself. Set goals like getting to a certain number of pushups.

If you work out and work toward a useful certification, you'll feel better about yourself. When you get a job and move out, you'll feel even better. Then girls will notice you and you'll meet more people.

Do some things for fun and maybe join some groups or clubs, too, to get your mind off of depressing thoughts.

[Colt40]

If you don't want to attend college you could always come work with me on the oil rig, all you have to have is a hard work ethic. Starting out I was making about 7500 a month for 2 weeks of work, you work a week on a week off. Your work week you will work a 12 hour shift on days and then a week on nights. The work is very tiring but the pay is great, now I'm a driller, I make more money and do less work. You should look up drilling companies such as Nabors drilling or H&P drilling, Patterson drilling, and scan discover drilling. All of them offer great benefits and I don't know about where your from but here in Texas , women love roughnecks (drilling hands) you can find you a good ole gal. Then you won't be so depressed man.

[Anonymous]

you have to find what you want to do, not what society wants you to do, not what you think you should do but what you really really want to do with your life. once you find it I garantee you if its truly what you want to do you will get it done