How to get over the fear of getting hurt?

[Anonymous]

How to you get over the fear of getting hurt in order to take a chance on a relationship? I met this guy through some mutual friends. We talk on the phone occasionally. He seems like a great guy. He came to see me and brought me flowers when I was going through some problems with my family. (He lives 2 hours away) He said that I could call him anytime day or night if I needed anything even if it was just to talk. He even kept in touch with my best friend to make sure I was ok.

I really do want to get to know him better. I'd like to see if there is a chance at something more than friendship for us. That's where the problem is. I'm afraid to get to close to him and risk getting hurt. What if he isn't the kind of guy I think he is? What if I'm not the person he thinks I am? I know that in order to find out, I have to take a chance but how. How do you get over the fear of getting hurt?

[Anonymous]

You never get over this fear honestly. You just have to do what feels right to you. If this guy feels like he is actually into you for the right reasons give him a chance. I know that I haven't been given a chance by a lot of girls and end up in the friend zone a lot. If you actually feel something for this guy try it out and see how it works. He has already shown he cares for you so why not see if he will follow through with it.

Now I understand if you are hesitant to put yourself out there but if you never risk your heart by throwing it into the current you can't have it swept away.

[Chunk-Stonechest]

Fear is good. Fear is your guarantee that a sensitive, compassionate heart still beats inside your cage. Fear generates hope, anticipation, excitement, longing and sexual tension, all of which can be satisfied instantly in a single cosmic explosion when you and your lover collide.

In romance the opposite of fear is not courage, but cynicism, boredom and apathy. Don't ever lose your fear. You have too much to gain from this edge, no matter how deeply it cuts you.

[sexycrystal54313]

there really is no proven way to get over stuff like this, you just have to take a chance and you may get hurt and you may end up with the best relationship of your life, you just have to convince yourself that the hurt may be worth it in the end

[Rogerio]

He seems like a nice guy to be honest, and you have got to take a risk with things like this! so I say take a risk for him because he's already showed he cares about you.

even if it doesn't work out the guy sounds like a genuine one who thinks highly of you so I doubt he'd intentionally try to hurt you.

[sumina7]

One way to avoid getting hurt is to take it slow and see if you both are compatible. Things work out not because of Hollywood style romance but because of commitment. You both should have more in common than just romance, love and sex.

[QueByrd]

There's no way to get over the fear, you just have to do it and take the risk, if he seems nice, which he does, go ahead and take a chance and go out sometime and get to know one another.