Girls that dont eat, or have eating disorders, Guys what is your feelings?

[Anonymous]

Struggled with anoerxia since 11th grade, always had body image issues, but i dont really look anoerxic, I'm skinny but not to the point where I look dying, I have lost my period and always cold and other bad affects of the illness.. I recovered once, and I literally hated myself, and honestly despite what guys may think, received a lot less male attention though I was "normal" weight..

[Anonymous]

I don't think too many guys can handle it. I've been struggling with one since I was 19. I used to be fat in High School, and then when I moved out on my own I started just to diet. I didn't think anything bad could come from a diet. However, I went from eating healthy and exercising to not eating and exercising. I was working 12 hours a day, and I noticed the less I ate, the more I lost. I thought once I got to my goal weight, I'd be fine. I could start eating normally again. It isn't that easy though. I seem to go through phases. There are times when I am fine, and I am eating like I should. I don't eat junk ever anymore, I have a big fear of gaining weight. And then I will get into a mindset where I can't eat. I haven't gained any weight, but it doesn't matter. I still for some reason get into this mindset where I don't want to eat.

I work with all men, and they have noticed this. They are always criticizing me for my eating habits. So I think if I got into an actual relationship, it wouldn't last long. I try so hard not to get into that mindset everyday. It's a struggle to convince myself everyday to eat. I even feel guilty sometimes when I eat an orange. I am just glad I've never made myself puke. I hope that it never does happen. I think it happens if someone insults me.

I am ugly, so when I get made fun of for being ugly, I tend to get into that mindset. It's not just when I get called ugly though, it can be any kind of insult. So perhaps I shouldn't get in a relationship. We could get in a fight, and I could end up starving myself. I think I need to work on this part of my life before I can find a guy. I am almost 28 though, so it's been a long battle.

[Lyndsielee666]

I've struggled with anorexia since I was nine, almost died from it six months after I had my daughter.
My boyfriend hates it and hates seeing how unhealthy I am but he makes an effort to understand and he goes to all my doctor appointments with me. He hates that I nitpick about flaw I have but he's trying to understand.

[Asker]

Awh :( Be strong for your daughter. Make sure she has a good healthy mother to look up to, and make sure she doesn't go own the ED path.. God knows my mother, sister, and aunt all had eating disorders.. and shockingly... Me too.

[Anonymous]

I have had weight problems my whole life so I know how hard it is to handle an eating disorder. People think it is something the person can easily control, by either eating, or stop eating, but they really don't get it. As long as both of us are trying to overcome our disorder, and being supportive of each other, I could handle it. If she just gave up, and decided she wanted to live an unhealthy life, then I couldn't be with her.

[horus925]

Some men dont lije eating disorders. They, including myself think that if we go out and get physical with someone with anorexia, we cpuld cause them harm or even crush them because of how frail they look. Plus if there's a bit more "meat on the bone" there's more to apeal to the eye. But yeah get well soon.

[Editor]

I worry about girls like that but I don't know how to help because I truly don't understand how someone gets that way. Good luck to you, I hope you recover and change your mind about your body image. Men are a lot more accepting of different body shapes than women think we are.

[randomocity]

first off, have a steak, secondly, if thats what you want to do go for it, we are all just going to tell you THATS A BAD IDEA but if you can't quit there's no point.

[p0rtis26]

IT is awful.. I love flat stomachs yesyesyes... but if you are anorexic and way too skinny, I would rather date a girl who is on the chubby side rather than a frail skinny girl scared of eating.

[Anonymous]

You got more male attention when too thin, or at a healthy weight?
It's a struggle, I think the bigger issue is whether or not a guy can handle the disorder. It takes over the whole life.

[Vegvisir]

Couldn't date someone so self conscious. Ideally prefer people who have their lives on track, like I do with mine

[NoblesseOblige]

I dunno. Depends on what she looks like. Those symptoms sound worrisome though.

[Mesonfielde]

You should probably eat. Malnutrition kills you.