How to believe in yourself, when no one else does?

[Anonymous]

I have to loose a lot of weight. I know how to lose weight and I have a vision of a healthier me. I cut out all juices, sodas and etcetera. I only drink water! I cut out all junk food and I mean all! I do cardio everyday for an hour and thirty minutes. My will power to be healthy is stronger than anything. I have lost 20 pounds in 5 weeks, I am proud.

Only thing is when I tell people about my vision.. They say they can't imagine me thin. It hurts me because being an introvert I only have a few close friends. I don't know why I need reassurance. How can I believe in myself when no one else does?

I will not give up.

[GoodManDave]

This is a tough part of working out. I am in the process of losing weight too. The tough part for me is finding an accountability partner and working through limitations.

There are arguments for telling others, and arguments against.

The against is that now you'll have to do it, if you have true accountability partners, and that you'll always have "haters" - people who don't want you to change for various reasons (jealousy, etc).

In my opinion, I won't volunteer that I'm trying to lose weight unless I'm at a point where I have a true accountability partner. I'll just try to slowly lose the weight. If people notice, wonderful. Usually it's so gradual that they won't notice.

Now, if it's a huge change to diet, they might notice more easily. My friend ALWAYS has chocolate. He's obsessed with it. It'd be like him going vegetarian and swearing off chocolate... You can just downplay the new choices; not "oh, I'm trying to lose weight" but maybe go with: "I've been eating gross stuff lately and felt like something different."

20 pounds in 5 weeks is a lot! Just make sure you're doing it in a healthy way, that's all. Anyway, I wish you luck!

[NotJustAnotherGuy]

Just do the work, you don't have to believe in yourself. Long run average of a calorie deficit dictates you must lose weight.. believing in yourself or not.

Just do the work-- put it on a piece a paper, get it done everyday, no excuses, no exceptions, no compromises and after 6+ months you shouldn't have to worry about your vision of yourself. And you'll know at the end of it, that the only thing that made it happen was your will; your work. Not someone's advice, not someones inspiration, motivation, support, compliment, etc.. It will only be because of your work. But it goes both ways, if you fail, it's on you. It's because you didn't put in the work. No excuses. Understanding this is how progress is made. You alone are responsible for creating the life you want to live in. I'd suggest getting rid of the excuses. It's unbecoming of someone intent on change.

[Anonymous]

Believe in God and He'll help u.

[rjroy3]

This might be small, but developing new habits take around 21-30 days. You've stuck with this for 5 weeks, you're past the hard part. Whatever your goal is as far as your body is concerned, you will get. It's just time at this point.
If you get discouraged, focus on the things you say about yourself in your head. Focusing on what to do next is a good way to do that.

A lady friend of mine also said, putting on a pair of cute bra and panties makes you feel better about yourself. So maybe try that aswell? I can't vouch for that since I'm a guy, but it's something

[kheserthorpe]

You lost 20 lbs in 5 weeks.

To put it bluntly, fuck their imaginations, the facts are in front of you. You're doing this. It's happening.

You might also want to realize they could mean it two ways:
- They might mean they can't believe it will happen.
- They might mean they believe it will happen, but can't visualize what you will look like.

I suspect some or all may mean the latter, especially if they see you really are losing weight/made changes.

[beastman88]

you can do it, dont listen to the nay sayers. it can take years to achieve your fitness goals. taken me 2.5 years to lose 80 lbs. its worth it for your sake. you're doing all the right things. id cut down on the cardio a bit to like 30 mins and do 30 mins of light weight training, high reps and sets, volume lifting

[wowzer]

That's not them nnot elieving in you they just can't picture what you'd look like because they've never seen you that way. Btw, that's a tonne of cardio - what are you doing in your session, what was your weight and height weeks ago?

[wowzer]

*not believing

[Chance1880]

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[Coolstud93]

Don't give a f%$$ what people tell you. Just ignore them and prove them wrong. You've gotten this far don't quit now. I believe In you. Good luck:)

[Anonymous]

no one is gonna live your life, it's you who is gonna live your life, so you gotta pull up your socks

[Anonymous]

Fuck what other people think. The only person that should care about you, is you