I want to lift weights?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend is kinda upset by it, he's always hated that kinda look on women. I'm naturally strong, like I was extraordinarily strong as a toddler even, but I don't look strong. I thought I might start doing weights because I just like being strong kinda, it's something I've always loved in myself, and since I'm naturally strong I'll probably have a natural talent for doing weights.

My boyfriend has weights and that bench and bar thingy so i could start with his. He's really kinda against it, but I think I don't care... I don't know. I don't know where to start with lifting though? Any tips? And guys, what would you do if your girl did this? It's kinda like getting with a good body woman for her to turn obese or something... I don't know... ahh i don't know what to do :(

[aamy811]

Do it!!! Lifting is my life. I'll occasionally want to do something different but it always comes back to lifting. It makes me feel strong and powerful and confident.
First determine what your goals are. If it's to get slim, do something like low weight high rep, if it's to get a big butt or jut generally bigger yep high weight low rep (btw men don't get big like men because we lack the necessary hormones). Send me some links of your dream body and I might have some suggestions
But the most important thing get good technique. You do not want to hurt yourself. Please go online and watch some informative videos on technique, then record yourself (just use your phone) so you can see where or how you need I make corrections.

[Asker]

Thanks so much. I really don't know what my aim is, apart from getting a lot of strength and maybe having some slight arm muscles. I've seen some huge women before, but they were proper body builders, i don't want that. Do guys ever feel like shit next to you if you're stronger than them though? I don't care if they do lol, just curious.. It might be like if a girl is next to a really pretty boy with beautiful hair or something

[aamy811]

Guys can't get intimidated but it's never been anything huge for me. Most guys don't even know I'm stronger until they see me do something. I don't have too much upper body but my butt and legs are like an ox!
And if guys are intimidated who cares, just means he's afraid of strong people.
And you'll only look like a bodybuilder if you train like them. I've grown up with them and they spend hours at the gym and basically never have cheat meals. I'm not like that I really only want to spend 30mins to an hour (max), and I like to eat so I have some cheats.
But look around and try to did some pics for inspiration

[aamy811]

Thanks for MHO

[AshleyMD]

Well you said you don't look strong even though you are so I highly doubt you will get bigger fast or easily and I'm guessing that's what he doesn't like. Go for it! I want to do the same thing but my muscles grow too fast so I'd get bigger than I'd ever want to be.

[Asker]

I will say though, that like a week or two of sit ups and my stomach can get hard. Even when I was doing physio on my back before, it involved stomach muscles, and my stomach got sooo firm easily. Do I have likelihood of getting too big then?

[AshleyMD]

It sounds like you just became more firm and possibly more toned, if you didn't get bigger then I wouldn't worry about it because you say you are strong and don't look it.

[matheus_mb]

Have you consider going to a gym and start lifting weights with proper instruction? At least you'd be told how to start.

[Asker]

Na, membership is way too expensive lol. I might go for a couple sessions without getting a membership, just to learn the basics

[Klaatu51]

if you want to, DO IT, without minding what your bf thinks.

why doesn't he like it?

[Asker]

He thinks I'm going to get like the huge body builder women that can have like muscular masculine shoulders and humongous arms and stuff. I'm not aiming to get huge like that, i just want to get more strength.

[Prettygurl12]

Is he aware that women who train like men will never look like men? Like, we need a little extra something something to get big like that.

You're telling me he doesn't favor this look?

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[Asker]

No, he's just thinking of the huge massive body builder women. Some of them can really look manly. I've seen some that I couldn't work out the gender before they spoke before. I don't even like that massive look myself so much, but I really wanna be strong lol

[Prettygurl12]

I promise you they took supplements to look like that. If you go and bench and don't take anything special you will never get bulky like that.

[Littlett25]

Just start. They say if you can do 15 reps easily you need to up your weight. Here's some workouts https://imgur.com/erLKJtN

[Asker]

Thank you! Saved that pic lol 😁 thanks a lot

[Littlett25]

No problem! That's what I do :)

[Climber]

Just start with it. Most men are scared that they will loose their masculinity next tonan athletic girl. I train a lot myself

[Stacyzee]

Do it if it's something that will make you happy.
It's not like you will become buff like a man

[dsrice]

You should be able to lift weights!