To you weight-lifting guys at the gym: why do you stand beside me?

[Anonymous]

it's really irritating and it makes me feel weak D: Why do these big buff guys come beside me and do the exact same exercise as i am, but with like at least the double the weight and make me feel like a weak shit? WHY? and the worst part is it will take me twice as long to even lift anything near as much as they do...
Why can't they just stand in the corner or not at least beside me? They wreck my self esteem :(

[rachelbrrtt]

First. I know what you mean about guys making you feel bad about how much you can do. I felt the same ways about running for the longest time. But I realized I wasn't going to get better if I competed against them. That I needed to compete against myself.

Second they're being jerks and trying to show off. You could try wearing a hat, like a baseball hat, while you work out. I know a girl that does and it keeps the weird people at the gym from talking to her... It's something to do with they can't see your face as well and so they don't pursue as much

[Asker]

well they dont talk to me or anything like that, so thats not the problem.. . and if they are competing against me thats just weird lol

[rachelbrrtt]

But it sounds like you are competing against them. 'Makes me feel so weak'

And the hat might make them not approach you/ stand next to you because the guys might be expecting you to check them out and then ask them about how much they can lift, etc . It cuts off any possible communication

[lanternhill]

Sounds like they're showing off. I hated it too (especially in high school when I had to be in the class with the football seniors) but they didn't actually seem to care how well I did because they were too busy competing.
Also, in college, one day a guy told me he admired the fact that I was in there more often than most of the guys he saw. I hadn't even noticed haha. They're much stronger, yes, but perseverance is also really important.

[AlexCab]

Why does it bother you as much? They might be just trying to impress you but they obviously don't get that it doesn't work... or they just stand there because they do, know what I mean? Don't pay attention to them, do your stuff and don't care :)

[Asker]

i know i shouldt care... but i just feel like crap when im "weak" and they aren't :/

[AlexCab]

you're not weak hun :)

[BertMacklinFBI]

you're a girl so that shit doesn't matter lol. its expected for you to go lighter and that usually is the default, generally.

[Asker]

what do you mean "it doesn't matter"

[BertMacklinFBI]

its normal for a guy to be lifting more than a girl so why even let something so petty get you down. I don't feel like shit when a guy from level 3 on the track beats me. he's fucking racing in level 3, its expected.

[Asker]

well it sucks big time... thats one of the reasons i wish i was a guy :(

[BertMacklinFBI]

why? is it a personal goal for you to lift heavy? or are you lifting primarily to gain some muscle mass and tone out your entire body?

[Asker]

first of all i want to lift heavy, the heavier the better and it makes me feel good. second of all, all the sculptning of the body etc comes with working out a lot and eating healthy so thats just a bonus. I have been told im strong, so when i see those guys it makes me question it a lot. even when they are male and im female

[BertMacklinFBI]

okay so you want to lift heavy as a goal, that's cool but you really shouldn't compare yourself to a guy. that's comparing apples to oranges.

[BertMacklinFBI]

its possible for a girl to outlift a guy but its not the common scenario, also genetics and overall dedication play the bigger role.

[spuitkaas]

I think a female bodybuilder can lift more than you can, so you're already outlifted

[BertMacklinFBI]

@squitkaas im pretty sure she can too but that's not what we're discussing.

[BertMacklinFBI]

@spuitkaas

[BelleGirl21]

There is only 2 possibilities.
1. They are into you
2. Most likely they are just focused on their workout and oblivious to the people around them. This is especially true for the true gym buffs.

[Dandeus]

They think they're impressing you with the gun show.

[Asker]

well... its not working lol

[Bubblesi]

I know that feeling. :-) There's nothing quite like watching someone snatch your maximum deadlift :-D

[Anonymous]

A lot of those weight lifter guys build their physique to raise their low self-esteem or self-image... the gym is their "place to shine" and you unfortunately are caught in the middle.

[Asker]

omg, thats kinda what i do.. the gym is one of the few places i feel very confident, but then again i dont show of or anything

[Anonymous]

I see dudes doing that, I think they are pricks and just carry on doing my thang.

[Asker]

well i won't go as far as calling them pricks, because they could be stading next to me because it was more room beside me or something like that

[Opinion Owner]

They are pricks, you should keep yourself to yourself at they gym. I was getting followed around the other week by a dude who'd demonstrate how strong he was by immediately jumping on whatever I'd been working on and increasing the weight. Apparently he snapped something yesterday because he was lifting too heavy... diddums! lmao

[Asker]

lol!

[Keyspirits]

I wanna get a taste of dat double large cheese burger 😋😋😋😋

[Asker]

yuk... burgers :s

[Keyspirits]

Who doesn't? Looks so fresh 😍😍😍

[Keyspirits]

Dat double large cheese burger will gimme more strength to bulk up 😘

[Asker]

im not a big fan of fast food.. like at all! its doesn't have a good taste, and it really bad for my stomach and health

[Keyspirits]

Im not talken about the fast food double large cheese burger -_-
If only u had caught on it >.> why would u bring fast food to the gym anywayz o. O

[Asker]

you dont wanna know what i do with cheeseburgers when i see them at the gym ;)

[Keyspirits]

Lol maybe u can help fill up ma double extra large pepperoni pizza 😂😂😂

[Asker]

i might.. but it will cost you

[Keyspirits]

U should Juz be glad that im offering u an extra large pepperoni instead of interrogating meh >.>

[Anonymous]

Well I have no idea who you are to start with. I go to the gym to work out. Not pick up women.

[Asker]

im Bella, but you can call me Hanky-P... Im not saying they are flirting with me or whatever, but they apparantly like to show me how much stronger they are compared to me... :(

[Opinion Owner]

Hi hanky, call me a-dawg. But I agree with the other posters here. Those guys show off in hopes you'll sleep with them.

[Asker]

well if thats the case it working against what they are trying to acheve... lol

[Anonymous]

lol. an ant should not compare it self to an elephant...

[Asker]

why do you assume im skinny or/and weak? but one of the guys could be considered an elephant..

[Opinion Owner]

"but with like at least the double the weight and make me feel like a weak shit" this is why. Deja vu

[Anonymous]

I do it do so I can "unintentionally" bump you with my boner

[Asker]

naughty much?

[Opinion Owner]

you gave me the boner, I was just lifting weights.

[Asker]

lol!

[aficionado]

Ask them! Why are you asking us? :P

[Asker]

well... you got a point... but how random is it to ask a guy at the gym why he's there? lol

[aficionado]

If it makes you uncomfortable, then you should probably ask him.

[Asker]

well they dont do it all day everyday.. and i would come across as a bit selfcentred (thinking that their choice of place to lift has anything to do with me)

[kheserthorpe]

Think how it makes me feel.

[Asker]

i dont know how it makes you feel that strong guys stands next to me lol

[Kiwedin]

I think he means that it makes the buff guys feel stronger lol

[kheserthorpe]

@Kwedin actually i meant 'think how it makes us non-enormous guys feel when there are guys twice our strength standing beside us!

[kheserthorpe]

@Kiwedin missed the I.

[truthbeknown]

Maybe you smell really good?

[Asker]

maybe...

[GoldCobra]

Because we want to have sex with you

[Asker]

i dont get that logic.. they stand next to me so that they can have sex with me? how does that work? do they really think that by lifitng heavy and standing next to me will make me want to have sex with them? :s

[GoldCobra]

They stand near you -> gets your attention -> you become attracted -> they try and talk with you -> you give them your number -> they hit you up -> you hang out -> you get drunk -> you go to their room -> you have sex

So yes.

[Anonymous]

Please stop smokin' that shit!

[Asker]

not funny..(or maybe a little) but its friking true! even if they are guys and im a girl, its very diffcult not to compare myself with them

[Opinion Owner]

Just ignore it!

[Asker]

i can't... their mucles are huge O. o

[Anonymous]

They have testosterone and you don't lol.

[Asker]

no way? omg i didn't know that... oh wait.. i did

[Opinion Owner]

They want to ask you if you've ever been to a gun show

[Asker]

im still waiting to get asked

[Opinion Owner]

Well have you? Haha