Is she anorexic or is it something else?

[whatsername]

I'm asking this question because my friend is starting to worry me. I think she is anorexic but she doesn't really fit the description. When her grandpa died a year or two ago she gained like 30lbs, and then the weight just started coming off. She doesn't want to be thin, but the weight is just falling off so quickly. A few weeks ago she told me that she weighed 110lbs and yesterday she said she is at 108lbs. That is an extremely unhealthy weight for someone her height and she knows that it's bad but she doesn't know how to fix it and she refuses to admit that she needs to see someone for help. Her eating schedule is really bad. She rarely eats breakfast, hardly ever eats lunch (because she has no time),a and for dinner she eats her moms weight watchers recipes because her mom makes the family dinnesr. If she eats unhealthy foods she gets sick for some reason. I keep telling her to eat lunch and breakfast but she doesn't listen. And she can't eat any junk food because her house only has healthy foods. Is there any way I can convince her to start eating, and does anyone know why she has this problem? She says she knows what she is doing is wrong but she refuses to make a change. I'm scared for her because she is getting worse.

[ButtHoleSandwich]

Could be contributed to depression and stress. Unfortunately that person has to be the one to seek the help. You however seem like a great friend. Just keep talking to her and letting her know she needs to find out what is going on, that you care and that she needs to start taking care of herself. Hopefully soon she gets better

[whatsername]

Okay thank you!! I was talking to her today and she said she might keep a food journal to encourage herself to eat so hopefully that helps. But if she doesn't change in two weeks I'm going to talk to her again about getting help

[girlygirlviolin]

My friends just have to keep giving me positive reinforcement, and sometimes a part of my brain takes it in a bit... Surely if you just give her positive reinforcement a part of her brain will try to take it in... That is what has been preventing me from getting to a worse stage than I am now

[ButtHoleSandwich]

@girlygirlviolin I hope you get better too. Having an eating disorder is no joke. My cousin had one and her doctor told her she would end up having a heart attack of she continued. I agree that the food journal sounds like a good idea. Maybe even a timer on her phone to remind her to eat every 3-4 hours.

[girlygirlviolin]

Yes thank you I appreciate it :) I mean I don't think its a joke. Wow a heart attack, whoa... Tell her I hope she gets better QUICKLY. she must have a severe case. Right? I am of normal weight but I am appearing thinner over time my friends say.. Which I am in denial kind of I didn't realize I had one, until last year. My second year of it. I have had it since I was 16, I just didn't look skinnier. I wish it was gone. So dang bad.

[yulbsari]

I suggest that you find some way to get her to a professional or plan an intervention with her family and friends for her to get help.

[whatsername]

Her mom wants her to go to a professional but she doesn't want to. She said today that she might keep a food journal to encourage herself to eat more. But if that doesn't help then yes I think we need to do something! Thanks for the advice :)

[girlygirlviolin]

I have anorexia as well and my friends and I have kind of the same predicament so I hope she gets help. except as i am looking skinnier to everyone however not losing pounds I am different from her, and I have most other symptoms... I have had anemia, muscle spasms and stuff so I am different a bit. I haven't gone to a hospital because I'm not skinny enough for people to have severe concerns... I hope your friend gets help. I am going to a nutritionist... She could try that... tell your friend I have empathy for her and my friends have empathy for you.. They do everything to snap me out.. I relate